I have a best friend, who's name I will keep secret, and we met in the 8th grade. I have had a crush on him ever since. I came out to him and he accepted me. I told him that I had/have a crush on him, and he still accepted me. After I came out to him and and told him I had/have a crush on him, he wanted to be with me more and more... Were this signs that he also had a thing for me? Because he used to always murmur something to me, and I swear it stated, "I love you." And, see, I dont know if he's still the same. My question is, would you say that he had a crush on me too?
2006-07-19 22:10:22 · 8 answers · asked by Daniel R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The only thing I could tell you hun, is to sit down with him someplace private. This way there will be no interuptions, and talk to him. Tell him exactly how you feel, and ask him if he feels the same way. You have to be honest with him, and let him know you need him to be honest with you. From what you have said though, it sounds like he cares for you deeply. He might be going through some emotional battles as well. So, if he doesn't open up to you right away, be patient with him. Just, don't wait forever. You could miss out on other great opportunities!
2006-07-19 22:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by christinajean18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry. When you both get older, things will develop as they should. For the moment, treasure the closeness, trust, intimacy. It may not be gay or it may be. Why worry? Why care? Just keep things decent and friendly.
In the meantime, look around as well. Do it together. You'll find out more about the guy. Pls try to always keep things 100% open. It is VERY important.
My source:
My best male friend for 40 years. Poor shmuck was so disoriented in his sexuality that our friendship suffered badly. Regret it for the rest of my life.
Love him so dearly yet no way to share it with him or express it thoroughly. People so fearful and stigmatized of gayness that true male-to-male innocent friendship is overshadowed by it. He became indecent, sleazy, I couldnt take it and suffered for it. How stupid. It didnt matter to me if he was gay or not. I didnt care. He wasnt gay towards me, just so embarassed and shaken that I am not, yet he was always wanting to be close. He ended up being straight yet too painful to be close to his bestest male friend. How stupid is that!
I hope I get to reconcile this before I die, but the move is on his part. Not mine.
I've done way too far enough already. BTW, we have already said I love you to each other. But it was clear that we meant it as in brothers, not lovers.
So dont waste the chance for such a good relationship. Get and keep close and intimate. So what if you both arent gay. Get it? Your happiness is more important.
2006-07-20 05:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think there is a possibility of 66%.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
2006-07-20 05:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's hard to tell. But crush or no.... arn't those early crushes that you get chills from empowering?
2006-07-20 05:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I think so. He seems earnest, and anyway, you can't doubt him if you are in love with him so much. Love and suspicion don't go together, man.
By the way, are you gay?
2006-07-20 05:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave this thing right now . god has made you a boy so you should get yourself a female partner that is the nature rule . dont waist your life on such gay thing .
2006-07-20 05:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sidd 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're both guys...you both have problems...what's wrong with girls eh?
2006-07-20 05:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Prewett 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is gay, maybe.
2006-07-20 05:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋