2006-07-19 22:00:37 · 19 answers · asked by fm_aqua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not all do. But it happens if only one of the partners, or neither, makes the effort to tend the relationship between the two. The relationship is a very tender flower, and both partners must take care it has everything that is needed. If only one partner does, the relationship turns sour; if neither does... it may go down and die completely.
2006-07-19 22:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say marrying the right person, I am assuming that you love this person as much as they love you? To be honest, even though you are perfect for each other, you still have different needs and different wants. In this day and age, people don't communicate. At least not like they used to. More often than not, it's the lack of communication. There are other factors such as financial situations, lack of trust, even one person not feeling they way they want to feel towards there significant other. Some people marry for a fear of being alone. They mold themselves into what the other person wants, denying themselves of who they really are, and in time, they grow to resent there hubby. To have a healthy relationship, you need to communicate often. Have a fight once in a while, so you can make up. A healthy sex life with your partner can be a good thing. Find ways to have a date night. Even if you have kids, get a babysitter. Go to a movie or something, still spend time together. Be honest with your partner, but also be willing to listen. Expect nothing from your loved one, that way everything you get is a bonus. Never take them for granted.
2006-07-20 05:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by christinajean18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right people may not be together at the right time. When both the people are highly involved in their careers or are in the midst of a life transition it can be hard or even impossible to work out the normal trials and tribulations of marriage. Most of the people who get married though are not really ready, don't know each other as well as they think they do, and don't have the commitment to see it through.
2006-07-20 05:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by im.in.college.so.i.know.stuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because no one stays the same! We all grow a little, or a lot, each day. Sometimes we grow in the same direction and sometimes we grow apart.....since there are an infinite number of directions to grow in, it's an odds on favorite that over time we will grow apart. Apathy may keep some together..(being unhappy is sometimes safer than the unknown), financial concerns keep others together, and some part.
Although in a failed marriage we almost always want to blame someone, the real culprit, in most instances, is time passing!
2006-07-20 05:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages turn sour because people dont put the effort in to keep them fresh.If married couples put in half the effort into keeping a relationship fresh and exciting that they put in at the start of the relationship there would be a lot less failed marriages.It is harder to keep a relationship solid than it is to fall in love.
2006-07-20 05:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose and consider the right person before you decide to marry, chances of turning it sour are very high becoz of your high level of expectations from your partner.
If u think logically that all human are likely to err on various occassions and they are not perfect, you can continue to have a great married life.
2006-07-20 05:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all marriages turn sour. If people put half as much effort into marriage that they put into courtship this world would be a better place.
2006-07-20 05:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples need to discipline themselves to make marriage work. There's no magic formulae, no one says marriage is an easy job. More discipline needed when the children comes into picture. I believe it takes lots of dedication, patience, compromising, trust and of course, unconditional love.
2006-07-20 05:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All marriages take compromise. Also when you are with someone for a long period of time, things just get old. You need to just work at it. It will work if you are determined. We have just started having fun again. gorillamyke
2006-07-20 05:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think people take marriage too serious nowadays, especially since divorce is such an easy option/exit.
marriages require effort and of course a few differences, but you dont pull out as soon as it gets rough.
whatver happened til death do us part?
2006-07-20 05:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Steph is tight like a tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋