when we separated, my husband said he wouldnt see his two children (aged 10years and 8years) because he didnt want to be a part time father. After six months he got in touch and said he wanted to have them every weekend as he had missed them. I spoke to them and they said they wanted to go, so i let them. After two months of him questioning them about what was going on in my life, he stopped seeing them. When i asked him why, he couldnt give a valid reason. My children were heartbroken and its taken me a couple of years to help them over it. So to any fathers out there that dont see their kids, please think of what they are going through.
2006-07-19 21:59:02 · 14 answers · asked by chinablue_8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What an awful predicament! That`s a father !? As a mother I couldn`t walk away from my children,even if I was near suicidal(have been there).I`d rather die than loose my kids,no matter what hell they put me through.I really feel for You &Your kids,You deserve more.Some dads don`t see they`re kids coz it`s too painfull,when they`ve a new step dad,and they don`t feel wanted.Part time father bits -a load of cr**,cop out,he was purely using them.Hopefully one day You`ll find a new partner who`ll love You and respect Your kids.Good luck.Without that looser !
2006-07-19 22:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to be honest here and say I walked away from my wife and children 6 years ago. I vowed never to see them again after so many years of heartache with them.
At the time I believed that it was the sensible thing to do but it was just selfish on my part. As the days turned into weeks and then years I missed them more and more each and every day, they never left my thoughts until last year when I had to see my kids who by this time are teenagers. It was a huge struggle to get back into their lives and I can see they don't really trust me but our relationship is building and its is becoming better and better I have missed so much of their lives and feel so stupid that I could be such a coward. Though you don't need to hear it from me I respect you for what you have done in giving them what sounds like a stable and loving relationship. Take it from me the absent father is the one that will miss out not you and the kids best of luck to you
2006-07-20 06:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mark P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could NEVER walk away from my children but i know some people have done so and that is mothers as well as fathers!! I think that some people are just so selfish that they cannot see the pain they are causing other people. Just keep loving your children and reassuring them and you will all be fine. You sound like a wonderful mother and your kids know that. All the best, you are doing a fantastic job xx
2006-07-20 05:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is a series of pulls back and forth. you want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. something hurts you, yet you know it shouldnt. you take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted. a tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. and most of us live somehwere in the middle. sounds like a wrestling match, so which side wins?
love wins. love always win
i am sure, in life, there will be a better someone for you.
2006-07-20 05:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father left me when I was 2yrs old
But he gave me something when he left
He's made me the best Dad I can be
I wanted and needed a Dad growing up
I could never leave my Son
2006-07-20 05:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by del_beck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar position apart from me and me x split up b4 i knew she woz pregers!
i have seen the baby a few times but me and me x dnt get on at all and we always argue about everything and that isnt gna b good for baby so i had to walk away!
am regretting it but its prob best for every1!
2006-07-20 07:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by david h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe some kids are better off without the harmful influence of their dad (mom). when my dad left us (i was about 16) it was a great blessing and relief to be rid of his mean, tyranical, hateful self! i often said that he waited 16 years too long to leave us.
2006-07-20 05:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my kids are my life and i could never leave them hes a loser and you should be glad tell your kids that and hopefuuly the next time he wants to see them they will tell him no no no good luck
2006-07-20 05:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any father that would abandon their kids, should be flogged and tied over an anthill and covered with honey, so giant bullants can eat him alive
2006-07-20 05:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wudnt knw i dont want kids n the first place...plus i dont think id be able to do such a thing that is apart of me
2006-07-20 05:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋