Someone please help me!?

Question

Im 16 and pregnant. What i did was the dumbest and most irresponsible thing i could ever do! I always wanted a baby but its too early. One thing for sure is that i am NOT going to have an abortion and i am NOT going to give it up for adoption. I have already told my boyfriend, he wasnt okay with it at first but now he is and our problem is telling our parents. But my parents are in the middle of their divorce and im scared, how do i tell them?

Answer 1

Pick a time when they are calm, and tell them alone (no friends, boyfriend around).

Just expect a huge response from them. They are not likely to be rational at this time, but put yourself in their shoes- you wouldn't be either, right? Eventually they will settle down and be more compassionate, but it may take a while.

Good luck!

P.S.- I commend you for doing the right thing!

Answer 2

Hi! I am 48 yrs. old now and I had my first child when I was 16 also! Although I am extremely happy that I didn't give him up, things were a lot different then! I married his dad, who then lost his wrestling scholarship to collage. We had another baby 2 years later, and when he was 10 months old, we got a divorce. Even though he assured me that he would always be there, he wasn't! Child Support found him when my boys were 15 and 17. I had my tubes tied when I was 21 so that I would'n't keep having kids. I later adopted 2 girls! I adopted drug addicted babies, because there is such a huge demand for babies (normal & healthy) and I knew I loved mine the second I saw them! I missed DATING, the PROM, all of the experiences that every young lady and man should have. There are so many people that would love to adopt your baby, and give it a good home. Secure, with a mom and dad, a house, maturity. Even though you two could keep the baby, I have a few questions? Are you going to be able to afford to buy everything that the baby will need? Where will you live? If it's with one of your parents, then who is really raising the baby! The two of you need to really talk, and then go to your parents, and I know how hard it is, but, you have to tell them! And soon! You need to start your pre-natal care!But before you talk to them, talk to each other and don't be selfish, do whats best for the baby! My girls know that they were adopted! They were loved immensely to be able to be given up, and then to get a new family that Loves them! I hope this helps! Good Luck! Jenny M.

Answer 3

Just sit them down, because they are having a divorce it may be easier to do it with one then the other, tell them what is going on....Expect the worst and hope for the best. Most younger mothers are scared to tell there parents but most never take it as bad as they think they will. You seem to be pretty smart and you know what you want......and you are also taking blame in what you did, so I have to give you a lot of credit for that most teens dont. Im 21 (so Im not a teen but Im still young to have a child in some peoples eyes) and Im 9 month pregnant.....its hard Im not going to lie to you but its worth it. You also seem to have a pretty good boyfriend, its normal for a guy to a little not okay with it at first (unless maybe married). I would sit down with the parent that would be easier to tell....it maybe easier to tell his parents sometimes guys parents are a little easier about it. Anyway Hope that this has helped you in someway and good luck and even though it wasnt planned congrats I think you sound pretty mature for a 16 year old

Answer 4

You never know you being pregnant might bring them together again as they're going to grandparents and will have just as much more responsibility as you will have. Whatever you do - please don't let them make you abort, its your body, your baby and its all down to you.. I'm 19 and pregnant and its the most wonderful thing after the first 12 weeks anyway and my parents were over the moon, as i was shocked i rang my mum up in tears as i couldn't believe it.. you could have a heart to heart and cry to your mum how it wasn't planned but you feel strongly against getting rid of your unborn child whatever she shall think or you could wait a little till you get to 12 weeks where miscarriage is less at risk and abortion is well out of the question. Or lastly show your symptoms like sickness etc and pretend you're unsure whats wrong with you that maybe your parents will suggest you taking a test, then you can act as shocked as they are when it shows positive. Thats all i can suggest but whatever you do - do not abort this child, you will regret it in later life. Take Care -x-

Answer 5

Hon, if you are seriously planning on keeping this child, do NOT expect this to be an easy road. Short bio~~ I was 15 when I found out that I was pregnant, parents were in the middle of a divorce, but still living in the same house. I was 16 weeks along already, still having light periods and too far along for abortion (not that I would have but my parents pushed for it 1st) Adoption was out of the question for me, I thought that I was a BIG girl and that I would take care of my problems.

Telling my parents was hard, but I just sat them down and did it. I faced silence for 3 days from both of them. My father would just sit and stare at me, my mother would look the other way. I had thought of having the father there, but in hindsight it was good that I didn't, there was not approval in my dating him in the first place.

So there you are my dear, just sit them down and be honest. Figure it this way... you believe in yourself enough to raise a child and take on a life long task, you should be able to believe in yourself enough to sit down with your parents and be HONEST.

Don't believe in miracles and please don't believe that it is an easy road. There are many many girls choosing it each day, and they all probably have a story to tell. There are sacrifices that need to be made that teenagers just are not always ready to make. It takes a lot of support and a lot of help. Society can be rough.

If I had it to do over, I wouldn't change a thing, my kids are awesome. But sweetheart, it was harder than hell at the same time. Look me up if you need anything...

Answer 6

Whether or not your parents are together or getting a divorce is
not applicable here. They are both going to have to deal with this situation equally, just as you and your boyfriend are dealing with it. I believe that your parents will love and support you, no matter what, but you didn"t make this baby alone, and if you and your boyfriend want to prove that you are going to be responsibe and take care of this child together, in my opinion, you should tell them together. You could also have a third party, whom you trust present, such as a pastor or close family member.

Answer 7

You better tell your parents right away and make sure your boyfriend will support you all the way until the baby is born. Make sure that you are agreeing with one decision before you approach your parents. I admire your courage for keeping the baby despite your age. May God bless you with good health and for sure, your baby will be a blessing to your life.

Answer 8

Well, there's no real easy way to tell your parents something like that. The only thing you can do is sit them down, and tell them the truth.

I'd recommend not having your boyfriend there at that time, however.

Answer 9

I've been there. I was 19 and pregnant though. If there is one that you think will take it better tell that one first. I told my step mom and had her tell my Dad. If not then you will just have to sit them both down and tell them. They will be glad that you were responsible enough to tell them instead of hide it but they are going to be upset. It's gonna be hard but try not to stress about it to much.

Answer 10

First of all, I commend you for deciding not to abort.
Secondly, your parents should be the first place you go. But perhaps you could go talk to a PRO LIFE center in your area, and ask their help in this matter.
Send me a private message - I will provide you with directions in your area.
YOU ARE A BRAVE YOUNG WOMAN!