Is There Something Wrong With Me?

Question

In life I believe in being natural, being yourself. I don't fake emotions or kindness. If I feel the moment come over me, I act on it. I just can't be unreal, and I don't ever have the desire to try to be. However, this leads to setbacks. Though I try to make friends and become more social, I have issues. People simply don't like me. I try in my terms, which would be to get to know the person better and I'm a good listener. I refrain from bad-mouthing and I'm laid back and down to earth.
I can't seem to get along with the female gender period. I try, but it never works out. I do have about three friends that are women, but when it comes to jobs these days, I can't communicate with them. Unfortunately-that's all I work with. It isn't that I'm flirty, I just get along with men better. I am not competitive nor do I brag about anything, I'm just myself. I find it necessary to network with women via my workplace (when I have a job) but the past 2 jobs-the women don't like me.

I think you misunderstood-I simply meant kindness and emotion are real for me, not faked to make someone like me or respect me.....that's all.

Answer 1

i think u sound great you carry on being yourself dont be different ime the same i seem to get on with men more than women maybe the women are just jealous of you and most people nowadays are just so stuck up and theres nothing wrong with you carry on what your doing best wishes

Answer 2

It's not that there's anything wrong with you. Some women just don't get along with other women very well. Maybe you have different set of interests and ethics than most women do.
I'm honestly the same way. I can be one of the guys a whole hell of a lot easier than I can be one of the girls. I don't see things the same way they do, don't like the same things they do, and most of all I hate the constant nagging pressure to be feminine. That being said, I'm straight, not all that tom-boyish, but I am not girly with a serious real-life barbie wanna be complex.
I find often times that women are much more judgemental of each other than men are of women. Most of the time, you have to be a lot like each other in order to get along if you're a woman, but with men you're much more able to be yourself.
You're not alone though. I don't get along with other women any better than you do.

Answer 3

I doubt there's a thing wrong with you. Well, I suppose that can't be true can it? ..... Let me re-phrase ..... I doubt there's anything more wrong with you than the next sincere, up-front, interested, real person. And maybe THAT'S the problem.

I'm a bit tired (3am), so I don't know if this is going to come out right, but ..... I REALLY believe in people. But I'm not sure they always believe in themselves. Ironically, therefore, I think my belief doesn't always sit well with them. Funny huh? Faith breeds spite.

Maybe your goodness leaves others who possess lower self-esteem, and perhaps less character, with a true sense of the shaded version of their nature. They may overtly, or inadvertently, take it out on you.

But don't despair. It's not bad to be good. It just feels that way sometimes. Be beautiful. Just love yourself, and be yourself. And keep being who you are. Those who matter will not only see it ..... They'll love it. ;-)

Answer 4

You know, it could just be that the women in your office are certain types that do not work well with your personality. Also, it could be that your subconscious self perception gets in the way when you're dealing with them, making the interactions rather unnatural.

Either way, don't give up. Put yourself out there, and they'll see you. The worst thing you can do is try to be something you're not. People generally like people with a definite personality and views, even women, because it's easy to understand such person and feel safe to approach.

Answer 5

If u dont feel any emotions or kindness u may have problem. The feeling u have got that a lot of people are faking emotions may be true. But that is not a reason for u to fake emotions and feelings. One of the drawbacks of modern civilization is that individuals lose their individuality and tends to think that they have to live/think in lines with others. And some XYZ decides what others are thinking or what is the main stream. The whole world follows so that they can spare the trouble of using their own brain. In todys society nobody decides what they want from life by looking into themselves. All answers and directions comes from outside.
There is an eastern philosophy of looking into oneself. Unfortunately even the easterners themselves are neglecting this philosophy. The idea of civilization should be to free one's mind from pre-conceived notions so that an individual can lead his life as he likes without burdening oneself with society's norms.
People like individulas who thinks or acts like themselves and shun individuals who think out of the box and thereby provide them with ideas which spark of unconventional thinking. This is true for the entire world. You are probably open to ideas since u say u are a good listener. Unfortunately this is not the case with most of the world. This is one of the main reasons why a competitive or aggressive minority can manage to manipulate the affairs of the world to its liking.
Finaly, whether u like it ot not, u can,t shy away from fighting because of your love of peace. The more u withdraw from outside realities, the more u tends to become bored with your life. If u look into the nature u will find that no creature is living in this world without fighting in a day to day basis. This may sound callous. But is true.
Good luck.
Varghese

Answer 6

It may be that in your circle of people, you do not have those who match your attitude or temperament. That does not mean any thing is wrong with you. In fact, being natural and down to earth, not showy and artificial, is a trait which needs to be applauded. But many do not have the guts for that. If you have, you need not change, sooner than later, you will find the right people--male or female, hardly matters, who belong to your category, close to you. Just have patience---and a little pity for those others.

Answer 7

Haha, I know exactly what you mean, and it's great the internet can remove a degree of it.
Some women take one look at me and don't even give me a chance, simply don't like me---hahaha. I am laughing because I don't care!
I always had it, and expect I always will and the only thing you can do is continue being yourself and not to allow them to bother you.
I get on well with many women too don't get me wrong but all of them admitted to taking a instant disliking but then got to know me and realised I weren't what they thought (by image) huh, says it all doesn't it.
Too many people judge others by their appearance and one of my friends who did take a instant disliking is still my friend ten years later.
I get along with men and women but men are the opposite to women, rarely find one that wants friendship without bloody falling in love with me, and I lose many male friends because of it.
Can't win really but I won't allow it to change me, why should I change because others can't accept me for being myself.

Always be yourself

Answer 8

it's life sweetheart, some people will like you and others won't but one day you'll leave them all behind and find new people. Being yourself is not bad at all, because most likely the girls that don't like you are fake anyway. You're better and they know it. In school I'm myself I'm just an Alex!. Do your own thing, worry about work or school, and you'll find someone who is worth your time, because worrying about them is wasting your time because you know you are going somewhere with your life.

check ya later ♥

Answer 9

yes that's it. in order to be nice with people you have to stop being yourself. smile just to be kind even if you don't feel like to. say how are you even if you don't really care. there is something wrong with being honest believe me. people don't take what you say literally, there is something wrong with people. I'm working on this. I'm trying not to loose my true being and get along with people, specially from the same sex. i made some progress but i can't say it's working out. god, being yourself is a curse in a fake world!

Answer 10

You sound like a woman who knows who she is and is comfortable withit. The opposition you are facing is more than likely jealousy and is unlikely to change. I am just jealous reading about it so coming face to face with it must be pretty intimidating! If you really want to get along with women you may have to tone it down, but i think you should just carry on being yourself, it is what you do best and you shouldn't have to lessen yourself to please others. We really should all be like you!