I don't know why but the idee that I'm not accepted in this world is more harder than it used to be. Here, in my home land, I have notice that I'm not truly accepted, espacialy from the guys. They always make fun of me becouse I'm not like them (I'm not good at sports like handball, football, I'm a sensible guy, helpful, friendly, I get easely angry or sad, I always to my homework, listen to everybody, I don't smoke or get drunk, I'm not a drinker, I always try to be good at studies, lately I become poetic). I accepted myself and pround to be me, but my classmates no or strangers. Some persons that are in my family and we haven't met for a while said that I'm to gentle, more gentle tha a girl. I even believe that some guys think that I'm gay ( and I'M NOT) becouse I mostly I talk with the girls and we understand each others. Some mad me feel like a looser.I ignore these actions, but now I feel weaken. Please tell me why is it like this? What do you think about me. No jokes!Be honest!
2006-07-19 21:38:06 · 10 answers · asked by Soso 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Only my family and myself accept me.
2006-07-19 21:39:01 · update #1
Its one of the hardest things to do, but you have to ignore it. you have what matters, you and your familiy and friends accept you. that is all you need to make it through anything. never forget that they are and will be there for you.But in this life, not everyone will like you, and its hard to accept sometimes. they WILL make fun of you, they WILL tease you, and sometimes we have to deal with it. now of course if it is getting out of hand, you can tell someone, but usually, all you have to do is ignore, and be proud to be who you are. I used to be just like you. I was always trying to fit in, always trying to be popular, and then one day i realized, I wasnt happy. all i had done was give a couple of laughs to the popular kids. luckily, my friends were still there for me, even after I had abandonded them. it was then that I realized, i didnt have to impress anyone, i only had to be myself, and those who truely cared about me would accept me. all the other people didnt matter. it takes time to understand this, but someday, you too will realize this, and then you will truely be happy.
Good luck, and may the almighty smile upon you forever and ever
2006-07-19 21:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by powwow366 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just fine! If there were more men like you in the world it would be a better place! Those macho guys are phonies anyway. Having said that, maybe you try too hard to be good. I'm certainly not suggesting that you should take to drink or smokes!, but maybe you could learn some sport that the others play and surprise them! But if you don't want to do that, (and some men don't like sport anyway) how about findinsomething that some guys do that interests you? Chess, Theatre (Oh, they will think you're gay if you get into theatre, but what the hell, there'll be other people there who'll know you're not!) Have fun and be damned to the critics!!
2006-07-20 04:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are happy with who you are that is most of the problem solved.
The remaining problem to deal with is that you need to stop caring about what other people think.
You are you, and if they don't like you that is their problem and they are losing out on having a good friend.
Not everyone will be the popular athelete or most handsome or the strongest.
But you have the best of them all, and that is you are intelligent.
Toady you may be sad about not being able to play a game. But the reat of your life you will be happy because you studied and have a great brain. You will find getting a good job is much better than playing a ball game !!!
2006-07-20 06:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
M K Gandhi said, it is not possible for anyone to take our self respect away without our permission.
The buddha asked, what happens to a gift if it is not claimed - it belongs to the giver. Similarily if there are evil and rude comments from those around you and if you do not take it to heart, it doesnt disturb you anymore.
And lastly, the lesser you identify with your body, the more love you will feel for the world.
2006-07-20 05:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by mu mu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are dumb. You seem to care most about what everyone else thinks of you.You should concentrate on being
yourself then you'll have real opinions that belong to only you.
And people will start caring about what YOU think of them
Why do people act this way?? Because everyone tries to be like everybody else.Every country every city in this world is full of homonigised persons that only feel what other people tell them to feel
2006-07-20 04:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jxsxn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you at all. As a matter of fact, if most men were like you the world would be a better place.
Men who are sensitive and gentle. It is a sign of strength and self confidence in who you are to be like that.
2006-07-20 04:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by wizzie b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound a lot like me when i was young. i had a very developed and mature sense of self and values that no one could understand or appreciate. in the end i gave it all up, because i was lonely. i had no friends, and not a single guy had so much as talked to me by the time i was sixteen. but i hate that i gave up on who i was, so unique, someone i was proud to be, but people made me ashamed. like there was something wrong with me. don't change. i wish i hadn't. yes, you remind me of me, and exactly the kind of person i was looking for. if only we weren't so alone.
2006-07-20 04:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude.. ive been there too. i hate football n sports. i love the piano i love drawing and being poetic. i cry at some love songs. i'm 21 and most people love me!!! people who make fun of u simply think they are better than u but they are not!!! i dont know ur age but im SURE that a nice and gentle girl will FAR LIKE YOU THAN the other guys. u know, girls and most grownup teens like to befriend people that are unique, just like U!! i dont think u'll ever want to be like those guys who look and behave the same ways as everybody! u R UNIQUE, ive got talents and above all u r SPECIAL. me too i dnt drink and smoke. Im even a vegetarian!!! lots of friends make fun of me telling me if i eat cabbage pottage 3 times a day but not now!! koz i tell them that at least im not like them!! im UNIQUE,ORIGINAL AND ABOVE ALL, IM BEING MYSELF!!
2006-07-20 04:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by ▓▓▓▓^^]AnTisH[^^▓▓▓▓ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're sweet and even though I'm only 3 years older than you I would be proud to be your mother. I don't think you're gay you just had a rough life and people don't understand what you have been through. If they only knew, right? good luck in life
2006-07-21 10:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by jess_brenda_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this webpage so you can straighten things out and determine what is important for you to be happy and what is not.
http://phifoundation.org/happiness.html
2006-07-20 07:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋