my wife cheated on me twice and has hurt me many times before but now she see's how good of a man i am, i think its just better to get a divorce cause i dont trust her anymore with my heart but i still love her, just not like that anymore what do you think.
2006-07-19 21:28:34 · 14 answers · asked by DUSTY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU
2006-07-19 21:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's cheated on you twice and you take her back she'll cheat on you again. Especially as she sees what a good man you are. She really needs someone she can't walk all over. I don't think that's you. You're right about the divorce, start again, and next time you feel like marrying have a long relationship first, and don't let ANYONE treat you badly!! (Insist on being treated with respect. If you do that you'll be able to have a satisfying marriage. Of course you have to be respectful to, but not be walked over)
2006-07-19 21:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you, if you can handle going thru the hurt and pain she has put you thru, and if you can forgive her. I think your better off getting a divorce for the simple fact that there is someone out there tht will appreciate you and give back wht you give out. still loving her is normal because you are human and you have every right to feel that, but only you can say enough is enough and to stand your grounds and not let her have another chance to cheat again, Make her miss you, and keep going.
2006-07-19 21:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has cheated on you twice she will do it again, i really do believe that. Only you can make this choice weather to stay or go, but if you stay it sounds like she needs some counseling one on one and then you both need some counseling together. People really don't know what they will do till they are in the same situation as you....but i don't think i could ever trust her again.--ella
2006-07-19 21:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she has issues that you can't fix. And if you can't trust her anymore, just chalk it up to a learning experience. Remember that all women are not like that, and you will find someone that respects you and will love you as much as you love them.
Divorce her, if she's messed off on you twice, she will do it again. You deserve better. I just hope that you don't have children, for it is hard to see a mom that is that irresponsible.
2006-07-19 21:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she changed now which is a lil difficult.. then give her another chance since you love her..i understand that you cant trust her anymore but if u love her and think she regreted what she did then give your relationship another chance..Your heart is the one that will tell you what to do..if you really think she loves you and that she is worthy of ur love.. then do it.. stay with her but if u r tired and dont have the same feelings for her anyomore then u should move on with your life.. talk about it with her and i think it will make it easier for you to decide what to do..
Best of luck..
2006-07-19 22:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would leave if she cheated on you twice that you know of she probably did it more than that and will most likely do it again . i think trust is the main key to a perfect relationship i think it is stronger than love but whatever you do make sure you make the right choice wish you the best of luck
2006-07-19 21:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is her problem u wont be able to change her so just let her go. as Hamlet said "Refrain to-night, And that shall lend a kind of easiness To the next abstinence: the next more easy; For use almost can change the stamp of nature". In other words end it and stay away from her it will be hard at first but it will get easier
2006-07-19 21:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't trust her anymore. Then it's done and over. For her to cheat on you once is bad enough, twice is unforgivable. You'd be a fool to indulge her company any longer.
2006-07-19 21:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give your life to someone who has cheated and hurt you so many times. It's hard to let go of the need to love and be loved, but you are just hurting yourself. You say you love her, but how can you know what love is if you don't really know how to love and respect yourself?
2006-07-19 21:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest you get some couples counseling if you have any interest in regaining your trust and working out your problems.
if you feel like you are done, and you don't want to deal with it anymore then i guess you want a divorce.
2006-07-19 21:32:48 · answer #11 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋