she doesnt seem to understand situations. she always wants evrything to go as she wants, am tired n want to divorce her but the problem is ma daughter (2 yrs), i don want to get separated fom her. wat do i do?
2006-07-19 21:15:09 · 19 answers · asked by GEORGE M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well i can give you first hand experience on this one. I stayed in the same situation for fifteen years for my son... Was it the right thing to do or not? Not wanting to get out for him, knowing she would make the situation ugly thus stressing him. Financial differences disrupting him as well. As your daughter get older she will see things aren't kosher in yalls relationship. Every kid is different. So i guess i haven't given you the answer huh. In my opinion if yalls relationship is bearable no fighting screaming just being there i would say stay for your child. I got out when my son was seventeen. Still wasn't easy for him. But easier now then ten years ago. But you definitely need to think of yourself as well because no one else will. Lifes to short not to be happy remember that and good luck. If you want to mail me for advice or just to talk feel free... Good luck.
One last note try talking to your wife. Give her the chance to at least make an attempt to make things better. Divorce is ugly, painful and disruptive make sure you are making the right choice.
2006-07-19 21:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
To stay together for the children's sake is a mistake..By time the children get old enough to realize you guys hate each other its too late. You can be a father with or with out the mother being there. If your not sure then this is probably just a faze..!! People that stay married fall in and out of love several times during a marriage!!
2006-07-19 21:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that you are a MAN. If you are feeling that you want to divorce her then I think you should talk to her and tell her that she is driving you to divorce. But before you do, I would suggest speaking to a lawyer and trying to get a solid case to keep your kid. Even if she isn't a good wife..is she a good mother? You should tell her that everything isn't suppose to go her way, a relationship/marriage is between 2 not one.
2006-07-19 21:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Karma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her go and you be happy with someone else. And I am sure she will do the same as for your daughter try to talk to her so you can have her most of the time. Since is your wife the one that wants out.
2006-07-19 21:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem in this divorce scenario is your daughter. Your wife would probably get her in a divorce and the girl obviously needs your more level head in her life.
Before you rush to the attorney try working this out with your wife. See if she'll go to counseling with you. If she won't, go by yourself. You need to learn how to handle this situation and your daughter needs to have you around.
If you belong to a church you might try counseling from your minister, but you need someones help in getting this problem straightened out.
2006-07-19 21:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying in a marriage for the sake of the children is stupid. Do you think that kids are dumb and don't know that their parents don't like each other? You are setting a bad example for your daughter staying in a disrespectful marriage. Your wife is setting an even worse example for her by treating you the way she does.
2006-07-19 21:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer particular the position you heard "once you get married your sex lifes get more desirable" fairly the alternative. because the marriage lengthens the continuous efforts on both significant different develop into repetitive and dull. the buzz can ware off and a rut is shaped. keep in mind that it may also be, he's seeing somebody else. No marriage is immune from boredom contained in the sexual section. If like me, my spouse isn't as open as she claimed to be previous to our marriage, we are already experiencing this rut. After in basic terms a year. save your concepts flowing contained in the bedroom.
2016-11-06 21:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all love her a lot next look for some job which is far away from home don t stay at home for days. do everything she needs yourself and make her do what you need . bring in more activities in your life and in hers. wait and watch time is a great ointment and healer.and these problems are all part of life and respect your mom and dad .these things will surely help
2006-07-19 21:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by midas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't take charge and show their place , early on, its hard to correct matters, later. Reprimand her, the next time she gets out of line. That's her one warning. Second time, take her into the bedroom and give her old-fashioned corporal punishment. Either straighten her out, run her off, or live in hell til your daughter's grown.
2006-07-19 22:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her ,what you feel about her behaviour...what kind of partner you like...or what type od life you want to live... and lissen
what she speaks...if both are ready for some adjustments your life will be colourful... mention about divorce also... still she is not ready for any adjustment...go ahead with divorce... live your life happily.... no need of any sacrifies...
2006-07-19 21:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋