My fiancee had a baby on me...4 years ago..I wont deal with this child or let her come over...but I tell him he is going to take care of this child. His family acts like I was the who did it and wont deal with my kids that are not by him when I am really the victim..we still are getting married though...I dont have nothing against this child at all it is not her fault..but I gotta put my foot down somewhere..Am I wrong for this..I had lost a set of twins and found out a month later about this child..yet his family still feel like I am wrong, but he understands how I feel plus I allow his children mother to call the house when she wants to talk to him...oh yeah he already has two more kids with her that was before me..Seriously what is you all advice???
2006-07-19 21:03:24 · 6 answers · asked by jojekier 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well your right on one aspect its not the childs fault!it really isn't fair to her to not let her come around,she didn't do anything wrong he did,but the child shouldn't have to suffer for what he did wrong,give her a chance u never know u might just fall in love with her ,and let her meet the new part of her soon to be family,its only right ,u will be marrying him so your kids and her will in a sense be related!i hope u change your mind and give her a chance,good luck!
2006-07-19 21:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by hshellraiser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really "tell" or force someone to do the right thing. If he's the type of person who doesn't take responsibility for his child .. and he's got three, you say?? Why on earth do you want to tie yourself up in a marriage with somone like this? Will he do the same thing to you and your kids one day? If you're so concerned about this child's welfare, marrying him isn't going to help. You're not responsible for her, he is. You're just helping him to NOT deal with the consequences of his behaviour.
2006-07-20 04:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by askios007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why would you wanna be with someone who lied and never told you he had children. (more than 1) If your gona get married to him then your gona have to expect him and his baggage. You dont seem like you want that so what makes you think you can handle it later.
2006-07-20 04:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Janelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way is to deal with it and face it in a realestic way .. it happend and u got nothin to do about it
2006-07-20 04:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Omer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you got bricks in your head...surely your delirious...did he have this kid with someone else while you were together? then why do you want to marry this guy?
2006-07-20 04:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't totally understand but it doesn't sound like this guy is marriage material.
2006-07-20 04:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋