after nine years in a relationship my then boyfriend left me for another woman, he was gone for two months and returned home six weeks ago. we have two children together and we decided to get married. since he's been back all he does is talk about his ex girlfriend and the girlfriend he had before me. everytime i confront him about it he says he's just kidding or that he came home to me. what do you think about this?
2006-07-19 20:54:39 · 16 answers · asked by been there 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Explain to him how it makes you feel. Do it calmly without being mean or rude. Guys don't usually understand how women feel because they don't have or feel the attachment to things,even words, that women do. Talking about or even to other women, bothers the woman they are with, and they don't get or understand it when we tell them. They see it as jealousy. The guys we love, know they have us. : ) Don't let it cause problems for you or arguments, unless it gets worse. Always talk to him, just don't ever accuse. Remember, he married you. I wish you the best.
2006-07-19 21:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well Im suprised you took him back in the first place but for now you going to have to give him a ultamatium that you not going to be treated with disrespect like that & let him know he did you wrong once before there will not be a third time if he dont mind getting a divorce and paying todays high prices for child support because he not only be doing you wrong but the children also, give him something to consider its either he loves you or get out and go after his ex & pay the price.
2006-07-19 21:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by dugbug63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a rude insensitive creep who's immature and selfish.
I think you'd be better off without him. I also think that perhaps you've been his victim so long that this would be hard for you to do .. he will keep giving you his crap as long as you continue to accept it.
I would suggest you do some reading on emotional abuse and how to handle yourself and him and the whole situation. Patricia Evans has written some really good books on the subject, and also has a website, if you google for her name you should find it.
I don't think it's a very healthy environment for your children to grow up in .. they are learning from you how to be a doormat, and they are learning from him how to mistreat women. You are all better off without him. Leave him before he leaves you .. because it's pretty obvious he is not committed to you and since you let him get away with it before, he'll probably be off again. He needs to grow up and you can't do it for him.
2006-07-19 21:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by askios007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take a man back who left me for another woman for any reason. He keeps talking about her because she dumped his *** and he knows he can come running back to you(settling). Sorry to be harsh but sometimes we need that to realize what the hell is really going on. Build up yourself esteem and remember you don't dump a dimepeice (you) for a nickel.
2006-07-19 21:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Veronique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every male like to take pride in telling these things. It is natural instinct.
Take it with a pinch of salt as long as it is not coming in the way of your normal life.
2006-07-19 22:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kick him to the curb, his defnitly stuck with his old girlfriend!!!!
Leave him, he will never change, or give him a altimatum, to never talk about his ex's and you would not leave him!!!
Good Luck
2006-07-19 21:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he isn't really satisfied about you being his wife and that he married you solely because of your children; otherwise why talk about his ex-gfs?..... just a thought. cheers!
2006-07-19 21:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that it makes you very uncomfortable and ask him to stop. I would not put up with it myself.
2006-07-19 21:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by catwilson9497 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he didn't stay with her if she is the only thing on his mind?
tell him to leave them out of your relationship with him.
2006-07-19 21:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by � Fuzzy Dice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid it . He will all this . He loves you that is why he is back
2006-07-19 20:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by atul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋