Are they for real?I thought i know them well ....they made use of my friendship ...company...innocence...n left wen they had to get on with life or wen they found someone else better wat is this?Is it so hard to have a bestfriend?Or am i too loyal....and expect the same from them???
2006-07-19 19:55:53 · 16 answers · asked by Preez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi! Please bear with my long-windedness as I'm a very detailed person by nature and, to me, every little detail really counts so it's really hard for me to cut it short.....To me, basically there are many categories of friendship. They are namely: (1) "Acquaintances" - Newly acquainted friends. (2) "Good Friends" - Friends who are of good character qualities and keep constantly in touch with but may meet up only occasionally. (3) "Closed Friends" - Friends with whom we keep close rapport with and mutually exchanged & shared most of the happenings in our lives constantly and therefore tends to know alot about us. (4) "Confidante" - Friends who we can really trust & confide in, a good listener & a warm shoulder to cry on in times of trouble and are contactable as and when we needed them. (5) "Wine & Dine Friends" - People who would contact us only whenever they wanted to have posh meals like eg. going for a buffet and wanted to have a few friends to accompany with but not that interested in what's going on with our lives. (6)"Best Friends" - Friends who are very close to us and love finding out more about what's going on in our lives, meet up very frequently for any kind of activities, very involved in our lives by giving advice & suggestions in times of trouble, tends to side us when we are bullied and even resort to confronting our enemies to vindicate for us. (7) "Buddies" are regular friends who share same interest with us and do things together such as playing sports games, birding hobby, fishing,etc. but do not have other involvement in our lives and do not know much of us. (8) "Cuppa Friends" - Friends who get to know over a cup of coffee, get in touch occasionally and only say "Hi - Hello" when we happened to bump into one another. These are some examples of the friendship categories listed out by me and by doing this, it will help me to identify which friendship category a friend should be catergorised under. As for your case, what I would say is; it could be due to your lack of understanding on your friend and thus resulted in wrong assessment. And because of that you have, therefore, unconsciously categorised her into the wrong category of your friendship listings. That is why you ended up with betrayal, disappointment, hurt, anger and regrets. It's no point "crying over the spilled milk" as what has happen has already happened. What I would suggest is, forget about that friend of yours and take it that you've never known him/her. Take back your pride and show him/her that it's ok to do with the latter and since he/she is not worthy of your friendship, it will be better for his/her true colour to manifest now before any bigger betrayal happen and result you in deeper hurt & regrets. Stand up for yourself! Take this as a lesson and learn to assess your friends from now on! Categorise them carefully and correctly to avoid another heartache. I'm sure you do not deserve the kind of treatment which him/her has given you so.....TAKE HEART! You'll be a smarter person the next time. There's no need for you to live like your world has ended therefore.....Cheer Up! There are better friends out there but watch out for fakes! You are not the only ones fooled by so-called "Friends" who turned out to be "fiends" instead!!! Hope my sharing is uplifting to you......Thanks for your patience & Wish you happiness always!
2006-07-20 07:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by lim g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Best Friends are males/or females that are there for you at all times. They have your back when needed, just like having an older brother or sister, and yes, as you get older you may grow out of each other, but that doesnt mean that your relationship wasnt real. Its just that each of you has changed and maybe took a different path in life, and the things that you enjoyed together before you dont totally agree on now.
2006-07-19 20:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by bmarleyfan26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A best freind is someone who you can tell your secrets to and know that they will not say a word...They are some who will be there for you during the good times and the bad..Trust is a very big part of having a best freind ...You know that you can call your freind and they you , whenever they or you feel the need. A bestfreind stands beside you thru thick and thin and probably will be in your wedding
2006-07-19 20:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friends are people who really standby you and help you when you have problems. Nowadays, it is very hard to find such a friend. You can't expect the same treatment on how you treat them. You can treat them very well but how many of your friends is going to the same to you? I think the possibilty of getting zero is very high. A lot of people made use of friendship coz they can gain something out of it, once they reach their goal they just simply forget about you. This is the current trend when you join the social unversity.
2006-07-19 20:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but in reallity i have found very few of that kind. i think only maybe five or six out of hundred coulds be caaaled real best friends. it might take time but i t is very much possible to find a best friend. and we have to choose one by the character not by outer qualoities some one who really stands by u through out the time and tries to be with you where ever they are in awat ever condition they are can be counted as best friends. it is some one whom you can trust . some one who is not a radipo blabbering away your secrets and some one withn the ability to control you wen you are on the wrong path .
2006-07-19 20:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by manini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell u this because i've got to be experienced at this bcuz i have so many best friends that its unreal, all they do is use you and want for everything and if they don't get their way then they leave u high and dry even though they always say i'll always be your best friend and i'll always be there for you....yeah right...as soon as she or he is through with using u they end up trading u in for a new bestfriend and they could care less if it hurts u or not! i have an ex-bestfriend whom i thought was really gonna be there for me but boy was i wrong, all she wanted me for is to be somebody to take her to see her man because u see she's married and i was more like her alibi just in case her husband found out but when she found out that i didn't want any more to do with her cheating on her husband of course u know she got mad but i could care less i'm use to her getting mad but i know to much about her for her to f**k up and f**k with me so that's why now i no longer will have a best friend just friends..........
2006-07-19 20:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by christina j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can say i have 2...thought i had 3 but like others have said she found others to hang out with and doesnt call me any more
the other 2 best friends i have are the ones that whenever i think of something fun ive done one of them were prob there and when i was at hard times one was always there aswell
true good friends are hard to find and once you find one you should never let them go
2006-07-19 20:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by GUNN3R17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went to severe college mutually and grew to develop into close (many, many years in the past!) and she or he's truly valuable and fortunate (financially)...tremendous abode, tremendous occupation, wealthy husband, large city. and that i, on the different hand am a stay-at-abode mom (low income) in a small city, countless hours from her. over the years and a majority of those ameliorations she hasn't ever dealt with me any in yet differently than a acceptable pal. She invitations me places typically, and continuously includes me in her kinfolk activities, vacation journeys, etc. i think like she's better than a pal, she's like my close kinfolk!! She even tells me typically how she envys "me"... because i'm attending to stay abode with my youthful ones and function an trouble-free existence. humorous how we may be residing such quite diverse situations, yet be so close and understand one yet another so nicely!
2016-10-14 23:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by mccarty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A best friend is one whom will never ever pass judgement on you know matter what you have confided/trusted them with.
First you need to know that if your LUCKY you may have 1 or REAL best friends troughout your lifetime. So remember that, and if/when you find your best friend, hang onto them tight and close.
PS never tell ne1 not even your bf bad things about your so if you want them to like him/her.
2006-07-19 20:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by cmyfingers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think u had best friends. best friend have ur back no matter what. they are the ones who will bac ku up in a fight when the odds are not in favor, thats bestfriends. so yeah even if he or she move to china if u guys r best friends they would still keep in touch. most of the time people move to have better job opportunites. so yeah dont think its ur fault. best friends are forever. so if they dont keep in touch they are not ur best freind. so yes they are real and true. so good luck
2006-07-19 20:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... I had a best-friend while in sec. school. She keep back-stabbing me till I left sec. school, I had enough of her acting innocent but back-stabbing me. Till that very day, I had phobia of "best-friend". If you are someone who let ppl step your head & feel bad of telling ppl off, it's better to be on our own.
2006-07-19 21:32:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋