2006-07-19 19:43:56 · 19 answers · asked by Fiji_bound2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Evidently there is something still going on there between the two of them, if he doesn't have children with her.
If they don't, I would refuse, Christmas is special, and it should be just spent with the two of you alone.
I would suggest that you invite your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband so maybe they could match up. See what your partner says about that. If he doesn't like the idea, or gets angry, I would move on to greener pastures. It would mean he is not over his ex, and should not of put you in that situation.
2006-07-19 19:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
well if they have children together it's expected ( you'd be in no position to complain and would be chucked by him if you complained and they had kids together!) and if she's lonely and single it's only polite to! I get your concern though, keep an eye on her I say...lol not the best advice but he probably wants to stay friendly she must have been special for him to have married her so I wouldn't consider being rude to her because he'd probably choose her if they were married long and she is important to him. Talk to him about your feelings, be polite and smile! You might like her in the end just make sure he's not still liking her TOO much! lol
It should just be you and him but try and find out why he wants her over, if hes newly divorced maybe he's still in love with her?
Doesn't really help does it? Sorry, it's a tricky situation, all I know is honesty is the best policy (as long as its something polite otherwise bite your tongue! lol)
2006-07-19 19:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1...Why would he want to do that? I don't know the circumstances, but it seems like that's a busy and emotional time of year...not exactly the best time to deal with an ex.
#2... You certainly have a right to your feelings, but I'd approach this subject carefully. When you discuss this with your partner (and you certainly should) make sure you clearly focus on how the thought of this makes YOU feel, and keep any nasty comments you might want to make about his ex to yourself. If not, you'll loose credibility, and he won't take your fear and/or hurt seriously. Good luck on this.
2006-07-19 19:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cindi A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i find the fact that hes inviting her and taking u kool. u c ur the his girl now and she is the past. if anything she will be like jealous of u. its just lunch right. i think u should look at this as an opportunity to meet his ex and let her c what she loss. so try to c it in a good way not negative. he wants to show u off to her probably so let him. hes happy to be ur man and thats something. good luck
2006-07-19 19:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're going to invite your exhusband or exboyfriend, so you won't feel left out. If he's your PARTNER now, not your husband, then I think you better find out if this is going to happen all the time before you get married.
2006-07-19 19:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth would he want her there for? Are they good friends? Tell him that you do not want her there. It can make for a very uncomfortable time for you and possibly for everyone.
My husband wanted to invite his ex to our wedding. I told him NO! It would make me very upset to have her there. He agreed and didn't.
Just put your foot down and tell him NO! If he insists, tell him that you will not attend. Period. This guy needs to learn that this should not happen, unless both of you don't agree. I hope he will respect you and give this up.
Good luck!
2006-07-19 19:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. If she is going to be around, then that is baggage you don't want to deal with. Two women will never work, time for him to live in the past, or live for now and the future, because his ex is not the future.
2006-07-19 19:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you dont like that he is inviting her. how can he invite her... or still there is a relationship between both of them.. tell him you have broken the relationship with why do you want to invite her, if you love me and you want me to love you and want to stay with you plz dont call her....... tell him this......
I cant see my partner with other lady i will stand or a fight.
2006-07-19 19:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Unique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is 5 months away, he is just trying to pick a fight!!! Tell him you'll talk about it later and distract him in the mean time.
2006-07-19 19:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Ex is supposed to be your best friend. They know everything about you. If your guy is a good guy then express your feelings. If he insists that she comes then suck it up. He'll appreciate it later (if he's the good type.)
2006-07-19 19:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by jnabors6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋