2006-07-19 19:40:47 · 24 answers · asked by Singapore_Lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HECK NO! Its like my mom says, "Hit me once, shame on you. Hit me twice, shame on me!"
2006-07-19 19:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. You should be happy and safe in a relationship, not scared and bullied. If there are children involved as well then some will think that this is normal and the pattern will continue. When they are older they will abuse their partners and the pattern will keep going. I know it's hard to make the break but no one should put up with this type of behaviour.
If there are children involved then the person who is being abused should get away for the sake of the children as well as themselves. My Dad was an abuser and I now - as an adult, have nothing to do with him. I have a daughter and have never hit her and we are so close - she is my best friend and vice versa.
I blame my Mum as well as my Dad because she had the power to remove us all from the situation when we were younger and didn't - she used to say she couldn't cope without him - rubbish - she now admits that she was wrong - she always says now that she wishes she had left him years before she did. Life is too short and percious to live in constant fear- no one should have to live like that. People should respect themselves more and be strong and live a happy life, not an abusive one filled with fear, this world is abusive enough.
2006-07-20 02:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by missieclass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not an easy question to answer. if someone was bad all the time you'd leave, but abusers are nice people until they get angry and become abusive. Most people try not to make their abusers angry and want them to always stay happy. it's also a process of loosing self esteem, feeling like you can't leave, that you blame yourself for the abuse. If you are in an abusive relationship get help asap. talk to someone about your situation and they can help you take steps to fix the problem, and that may mean to leave.
2006-07-20 02:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO no1 should be. Your meant to be in a realationship to make the other person feel good and by doing so make you feel good. If your partner abuses u in anyway even emotional abuse its not right one bit. My mum is a abuse support person, when ppl go to court she stays with them the whole time n just listens to what happened to them. You would be suprised how many of the abuse cases just started off with a bit of name calling and shoving.
Another reason why u shouldnt be a realationship with abuse is if you choose to stay with the person you most likely will start beliving that you deserve it(WHICH NO1 DOES). And in future realationships you will accept it again and get hurt again even worse.
2006-07-20 02:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand why people ask these ?, do you think it's okay to be hurt psychically or mentally by male/female, I don't ;coming from someone who is now partially deaf in both ears, we r suppose to take pride in relationships and be HAPPY!!!! not be hurting, I hope u aren't letting someone abuse u if u r pls leave and be strong.
2006-07-20 02:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...if you have no respect for yourself and have no self worth. Why would anyone let an abusive individual dominate their life. I mean...whats in it for you. Come on...get a grip. Start loving yourself. Do not let any man dictate your life in this manner. If he cannot be caring and loving, what good is he.
You have value. All you have to do is believe in yourself. A good way to start is by kicking anyone to the curb who cannot show you respect.
To thine own self be true.
2006-07-20 02:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be a hell **** no. cause it only gets worse and mental abuse is as bad as physical abuse either one is terrible but baby girl if your living in physical abuse you need to get out now before it is too damn late trust me there is help out there no matter what you think but the key is you have to want out before you can get out of it and know that you are bettering yourself in the long run beleive that
2006-07-20 03:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyed sexy blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who knows. You always discover that fact when it's too late, and you are already there. Odds are, virtually everyone, at one time or another discovers that someone they thought was a good person turns out to be the very thing they've always sworn they would avoid.
2006-07-20 02:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by terri m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** no! abuse is a sign that the person you are with does not care for you.period. and the thing about abuse is this it gets worser and worser so why settle for less when you can have the best? for example if you go to a mall to buy a c.d. are you going to get a c.d. that you dont like cause someone said it sounds good? no you are not why cause you know what you want and youre not going to settle for listening to trash. you get my drift? get what you want and dont settle for less!!! ya heard me!!!!?
2006-07-20 02:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Who has the right to abuse me!!
2006-07-20 02:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is as black and white as it seems. If it is both of you fighting, try counseling. If it is emotional, try to work it out, seek specialist. If it is physical leave. It all depends. But never, never let yourself believe you are not worth a great life. You deserve it just for breathing.
2006-07-20 02:50:46 · answer #11 · answered by Mandee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋