A question about: Cutting...?

Question

Why do people depise people that cut? It's just another way of 'expressing yourself'. Just because someone causes pain to themselves instead of showing it, doesn't make them a bad person or negative influence.

My best friend does it, and he gets hurt by people a lot emotionally. It's just how he handles the pain inside of him instead of crying or going into a fit of rage. I understand that it's different, and it's probably not good for him, but he uses a clean knife and cleans the cuts every day. He's not doing this to 'commit suicide', like some stupid people think.
Can't people just understand it, instead of critisizing him?

I'm not telling him to cut, just that I'm not going to be judgemental about it. I'm there for him whenever he needs me.

And his parents know. But I'm not going to keep bringing it up.
I also believe that Cutting is an addiction.

Oh. I agree he needs help, but I can't force anything to happen. I think I'll tell him about the happy and crappy book thing someone mentioned.

Answer 1

I understand i used to cut it was very hard to stop. I tried to kill myself too but in other ways. cutting help me it felt so good. and sometimes its hard not to. but fact of the matter its not a good way to release and eventually he will regret the scars. Ask him to try to stop for himself. (it took me having 2 kids to stop, i notice my oldest ,5yrs, start hurting himself when he was upset, and i never did it in front of him) Ask him and i know this sounds stupid but it works for me., ask him to start a happy book, put anything that makes him happy in it (except family and friends cuz they piss u off sometimes too) anything from chewing gum wrapper to pics of girls. open it when he needs a reminder of the things that make him smile. then a sappy crappy book. this is the book you put everything that pisses you off in everyone that hurt u, and things that happend to you. i know it sounds gay but it helps. its just not healthy to be a cutter and in the end it hurts more
take my advise or dont either way i hope this helps

Answer 2

it is not normal and is probably a cry for help because he does not know how to handle it any other way. He needs to learn HOW to handle it in a better way. and u need to learn to not sit back and do nothing. This is a mental problem manifesting its self physically. Just like anything else, he needs to get help to figure out where and why this all started, he wasn't born with the instinct to inflict harm on himself. and i would imagine to answer ur question, people probably see it forming like an addiction / desire for tatoos u can't stop at one. wondering when he will stop can be a problem -eventually he will run out of blood or may decide it takes a deeper cut each time to numb his pain.
be a true friend and send him help.

YOU'RE RIGHT IT IS AN ADDICTION, WITH A MENTAL CAUSE AND A DEADLY CONSEQUENCE OVER TIME. JUST LIKE A DRUG ADDICT - WOULD U SAY UR COOL WITH THAT IF THERE WAS NO EVIDENCE THAT IT WAS HURTING HIM RIGHT NOW ON THE OUTSIDE????? OR GET HIM HELP CAUSE U KNOW THAT SOONER OR LATER IT WILL CATCH UP WITH HIM.....

Answer 3

years of negative thought have trained people like monkeys or dogs to keep certain things socially acceptable. Ask a doctor sometime about what happeens to the blood flow around a wound. He will tell you about the mass chemical expenditure from the nervous system flooding the area that is hurt. Large amounts of chemicals released like that can sometimes be very enjoyable. It's too bad not everyone pays attention to the way the body works. I agree with youre friend, personal pain should not be drawn out and shared with violence, and crying is too slow of a healing process.

Answer 4

You should get your friend some help. People cut to release stress or emotional feelings they think they cannot handle. It is something they are able to control themselves if they're smart. (of cource if they were smart they wouldnt cut) and no, ppl who cut do not always think of suicide. thats just being hypocritcal right there. If left untreated, cutters can do some serious damage to themselves the long they go on doing this. It's best to find help on dealing with life and not cutting as an escape. I used to cut when I fell into a depressional rut. But my now fiance pulled me out of it. I understood I didn't need it anymore. Most of my scars are gone but some still remain. Sometimes I like them there and sometimes I wish they would leave...but thats life... Hope I helped!

Answer 5

i use to cut i see wheres hes coming from it is a bad habit tho i got myself to quit because i seen it was hurting others around me yes cutting is a way to keep ur emotional hurt calm it don't help to well because after the cut is gone the pain comes back.
its not a way of expressing yourself its away to take the stress off of u just for a little while.
i was put in the ridge for cutting an i have tried to commit suicide but it don't make things better hes just crying out for help he just needs someone there for him to care about him an not hurt him...
whether he uses a clean knife an cleans the wound it don't keep the pain away forever if a human loses more then 2 pints of blood they die cutting is the worst way to handle stress just give him ur support an care for him tell him u don't want him to cut please save a life an tell him from someone who nos the pain an all its not the best way to take it away good luck...

Answer 6

Hun, your friend needs help, and he needs it now. People cut themselves when they experience pain that they cannot bear, and the only way that can express it is by cutting themselves. Please be a real friend for him, and help him. Let his parents know, let a counselor in school know. This is not healthy and he really really needs help before he gets hurt even more. This is not an art form and no a way of being original. it's a serious problem and it needs to be treated.

Answer 7

I think its really you who doesn't understand what is going on. Most people who cut themselves are crying out for attention. The best thing you could do for your friend is to tell his parents or take him to a doctor. Its a sign of mental illness to inflict pain on yourself. He needs help, not encouragement. And no, its not all right that he does it and you justifying his self mutilation is only making it worse. If you really want to be his friend tell him he must stop.

Answer 8

i under stand 100% i used 2 cut all the tym just a way 2 get my feelings out nd some ppl do it 4 the adenaline or the rush but wen i did it i had no i dea how 2 cope with every thing that was goin on in my life nd idk why i just couldent cry so i went in my room nd cut nd wait 4 all my pain 2 go away but now ive found a new way on dealing with my probs i tlk 2 som1 mainly my fiance nd she is a real help but everybody is not like that nd sure ppl say its the sign of the devil nd crap well they dont no wat else 2 do so they find a way i no wen ur in pain that much in side pain can feel good at tyms at a certain exstent ......well i hope i helped

Answer 9

I just helped my girlfriend get over her cutting. The only thing I worried about was if she cut too deep and bleed too much. Cutting is a serious condition that is not healthy. So many things can go wrong when he cuts. Cutting too deeps or getting an infection inside the cut. And it is wrong to down those who cut. It just makes them want to do it more. But I would really help your friend before the cutting gets any worse. He could really hurt himself. The last thing you would want is for him to die because he cut too deep and bled to death. Major veins run through your wrist and if cut, they will not stop bleeding. But help him stop before he really hurts himself or gets put into a mental hospital.

Answer 10

I get your question but i got one for everyone else that answers or has answered more of a comment than a question but n e Way...
If you guys are answering this question are you answering it because of past experiences or just to criticize this person?
Maybe you need to have felt the pain before calling her a bad best friend

Answer 11

people shouldnt hate anyone for any reason, but cutting yourself isnt "expressing yourself". Cutting yourself damages your body and most of the time is just dont for attention. If someone cuts they should go to a psych