I have a friend. she is married and got 3 kids. She is in love with a teenager guy who is supposed to be her distant relative. She says she gets more love from him than from her husband. THey talk for long on phone and they meet occassionally too. Whats ur opinion about this relation? I need to give her some good advice. Please help me.
2006-07-19 18:57:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They dont have any physical relation. Only mentally and emotionally they are very much attached.
2006-07-19 19:00:08 · update #1
I can say that she shouldnt be doing this, but Iam sure something has keep them attracted to each other. If they can continue without affecting ur friend's marriage relation, then i think its ok. But they should keep their limits. He should not forget that ur friend is married with kids. Anways, its they who have to talk and decide.
2006-07-21 22:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by HarRY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..she can't risk and ruin her marriage tis way..should concentrate her 3 kids and husband more...her husband is not showing her attention or she finds him bored after a long time relationship...
Teenager can gives lots of surprises and they are playful at tis stage with full of energy to please you in any way you want and they are also frickle-minded but they will grow out of this phrase sooner..
Shld ask her to stop immediately and explain to her it took so much time and energy to build up their husband and wife relationship and it is also impossible they can be together..
Ask her when she is old, what will happened to the teenage, will he still like/love her...no.. she can maintain her looks or figure or whatever until when..not 4 a long time...
2006-07-19 19:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they have not have physical relation yet, they are on their way. Your friend must define her feelings, specially because she has a family. If she decides that she loves the teenager, she must leave her husband, she should avoid problems with her husband and her kids.
2006-07-19 19:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by God knows what 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do for everyone is to get professional help. This is out of your league. Perhaps you can offer to go with your friend to counseling if she is too weirded out by the suggestion. Show your support by saying you are worried and you want to know what a professional thinks.
You can say: "Maybe a professional will tell me to butt out but until a non-biased professional tells me that, I think we should see what their perspective is."
That whole script is not really about her. It's about you and "we."
Good luck.
2006-07-19 19:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disgusting
2006-07-19 19:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by kingofnarniaforever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when is cheating fine???? She should focus on her family try to get closer to her husband again and if she has issues try to solve them, but getting all infatuated for a guy who's going to see her as a prefect passtime , that's so unwise ...
2006-07-19 19:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hard to say what kind of realtionship it is from the way you describe it. Id say if your friend is of legal age and he is of legal age it really doesnt matter what the rest of us think of it. God alows her free will to make her own decisions and to make her own moral choices right or wrong it is her decision.has she asked for you advice? if so by all means give it otherwise....
2006-07-19 19:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by djmantx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how distant is this relative? She shouldn't be having an affair. That'ss what its called. She needs marriage counseling
2006-07-19 19:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by sbinder3111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not ok and you know it's not...It's illegal. He's a teenager so she could go to jail if they are sexually active. Oh and in some states, infidelity is a felony.
2006-07-19 18:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ gcollins.....plus if the teen's parents found out, they would probably have grounds to sue for statutory rape! Just in case she/you haven't read the news lately...women are going to jail for similar indiscretions.
2006-07-19 19:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by ModelBehavior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋