I want to talk to her but im too afraid that im going to make her more upset. What should i do?
Her best friend was only 16, and so is she
2006-07-19 18:38:47 · 11 answers · asked by BrooklyN BabiE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
everything i talk to her about seems to end up back to the sucicide
2006-07-19 18:53:43 · update #1
Mm. A big warm hug and listen. Over the coming months, if you have any rapport with her, spend time with her. Stay away from telling her that she should be xxx, or she should feel yyy, or she should do zzz. Just ask her why she is thinking/feeling these things. Listen and learn, and don't be afraid to tell her that you are learning from her. She lost her best friend and confident. She also took a very deep blow in that her relationship was not enough to give her friend a reason to live. She needs to know that she is loved, valued, prized, and has reasons to desire life. And guess what, as long as you are openly communicating and not judging, don't be afraid of being upset or upsetting her. Many people may shy away from her for that same reason. This isn't the time to avoid just because you are afraid and afraid of the unknown. Follow your heart. It knows where to go.
2006-07-19 18:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
There isint much i can say that has not been said already here. But I like some other people have expirenced a suicde death myself. You really just got to let it unravel itself. Just be there for her. Sometimes someone who just had a death of anyone close may not want to even talk, just sitting without saying anything with someone you trust is enough. Just be there for her. Hope everything turns out well hun.
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2006-07-20 09:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you really can do is offer your condolences. Tell her how sorry you are that she has lost her friend. Then just be there for her!!! Be there when she needs to cry on someones shoulder- try to get her out of the house and doing something! Time will heal her wounds and it will get better for her. Just be there for her!!!
2006-07-20 13:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey its so hard. in my teenage years i lost an x-b/f & his best friend to suicide its never easy to deal with but honestly in time it will get better just let her no that u r there 4 her to talk or just 4 a shoulder 2 cry on its not easy but always b there 4 her
2006-07-20 01:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by i wanna know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aint much more to add then what the above have said. Just be there for her. comfort her if she needs it. Let her start the talk about the person, not vice versa. And yet again, try to comfort her
2006-07-20 01:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by helluvahangover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply "I'm Sorry". Avoiding her will only upset her more.
And those two simple words will be appropriate.
2006-07-20 01:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are there for her. Don't really talk; just be there to listen
2006-07-20 01:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Tell her if she needs anything you'll back her up. That's all you can really do.
2006-07-20 01:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u love her n ur there 4her, thats all i can say hope it helped, sry 4the lose tho
2006-07-20 03:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by matty fatty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out for ice cream and tell her you love her.
2006-07-20 03:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by bran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋