How do you survive heartache?

Question

I have been in a relationship for the past year and nine months. There has been nothing but terrible arguements between us. We love each other deeply and want to work it out. We are both in t wo different states and talk on the phone everyday. Recently he has post poned our wedding due to our way of communicating ( i.e. arguing). Will we survive?

Answer 1

I have a feeling that the arguements are stemming from the distance. I think that if either you move closer to him or he moves closer to you then alot a things will work themselves out. It is so hard to have a long distance relationship. With all the uncertaintity of a relationship of course you argue. Why dont you go out and stay with him for the week and see how things go. If you have already done this then ask yourself when we are together do we fight as much as when we are not together? if the answer to this question is no we are so happy when we are together then there is your answer. If the answer is yes then you already have your answer. If things do not work out for the two of you keep one thing in mind.. You cannot just get over a love that is strong. You need to give yourself time and allow for the pain to take its path. Just work on what is important. Please do not jump to conclusions and talk to your love and try to work things out if that is what you truly want. Good luck.

Answer 2

2 sayings for u to consider...
"time heals all wounds/time wounds all heels"
"distance make the heart grow fonder"
-imagine your relationship with someone u lv dearly..ie sister, mother, best friend...
-imagine all the hurtful things being said to them...
-what would u do/say to help them?...
-get pencil/paper draw 4 columns...date/good/bad/horrible
-each time u argue etc write down how HE made U feel...
-Decide- do u really want to : 1. Live the rest of your life like that 2. waste the best years of your life 'waiting' for it to get better??- go thru the stages of heartache? there r stages like a death...only it's a death of a intimate relationship...and move on- things will get better...life has a way of surprising you when u least expect it...take care of yourself...u deserve better...the writing is on the wall...marriage based on 'arguing' will deteroiate quickly, u may even by then be in another state with no support??

Answer 3

depends if u both want it to survive and if u can learn to compromise instead of arguing.. you both need to start listening to each other and trying to work through things rather then barking orders or demands on each other.. Two of the biggest keys to a healthy marriage is Communication and Compromise.. if u lack in both it will never work..

Answer 4

in the previous he leaves i might flow down on your community baby help and report on him, whilst it occurred to me it became devastating, and that i will no longer be able to even think of how i might have felt had we had toddlers too. it extremely is commonly real whilst a guy tells you he does not desire to be with you anymore that there is yet another woman waiting interior the wings. it continually catches you off shield, there could be some suttle indications yet some adult men conceal it so nicely. i might get some grief counseling by a church. It does injury to be deserted, and understand that the guy you adore now no longer even needs you anymore. yet you will proceed to exist yet its no convenience for you presently. i might touch acquaintances and relatives and enable them to understand what has occurred as you will desire a help gadget.

Answer 5

If you can't get along right now that you are not married.. FORGET about getting married..find someone else..you don't love each other..couples who love each other respect each other..and only want to make the other person happy..

Answer 6

YOu are not suitable for each other. Be happy that you found out early.

Answer 7

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone :)