I completely offended my best friend. After she randomly hooked up with a guy at the bar, and went on a long, self-deprecating diatribe about how she couldn't believe he hooked up with her, I cracked a joke about how she must have been a "pity f***." Joke didn't go over so well (yeah, I'm stressed out of my mind over the bar exam and wasn't thinking properly).
I've apologized profusely and tried to make her explain that I ABSOLTELY do not believe that's the truth, and she's a beautiful, intelligent, and amazing person... But she still won't answer my calls. What next?
2006-07-19 17:38:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous 20-Something 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hmm, that's a tough one cause she is not giving you an opening to make it up to her. Maybe you could show up at her house with a funny gift like a t-shirt that says I'm with stupid and yours says stupid or something like that.
Or write her a letter (we forget how important letters are in this day and age) and tell her what her friendship means to you.
Good luck.
2006-07-19 17:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by wd2crv 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have done what you could. I think she may believe that there is a degree of truth to what you said. Either that or the guy did not call her again and now she feels like a fool. Either that or she has a beef about something else and this is a good reason for her to not talk to you. Ignore her for awhile, she may just like getting her butt kissed. If you feel that this is not an option, then send her a card and write how you feel. You cannot hang up on a letter and I guarantee that she will read it. Do not put a return address on it so she will open it. Curiosity will keep her reading it. Good luck!
P.S. If my friend said what you said to me, I would have laughed my butt off. I think it is hilarious!
2006-07-19 17:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by amoroushotmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the nail salon, buy a gift certificate for her to have a pedicure. Put it in a nice card that says something about being sorry. Hand write a note inside that says, "After I get my foot out of my mouth, I'd love for us to go get pedicures together. Forgive me, please."
Or, if you can find or print a card with a donkey on the front and blank on the inside, write, "I'm an a**. Can you ever forgive me?"
Or send a bouquet of tulips with a little note card that says, "Next time I think I have something humorous to say, I'll keep my "tulips" shut. Please don't stay mad at me."
Whatever you do, it calls for you to make some type of a grand gesture that shows you put some thought into it and that you are truly sorry and hope she has a sense of humor about it after she has cooled off. (In fact, she's probably more mad at herself for what she did than she is at you for your remark about it.)
2006-07-19 17:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Sounds like she wanted you to tell her she is beautiful, intelligent and amazing, you know, digging for compliments?
You've apologized, she needs to get over it - she brought it on herself with her self-deprecating diatribe that was really just looking for a compliment.
2006-07-19 17:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will heal her wounds. Sorry just doesnt cut it for some case scenarios. Like they say, the tongue is like a two-edge sword, you can bring life and death to yourself behind it. Even though she could have been exactly what you said, some people dont like to having the honest truth thrown at em like that. If she does decide to give you another chance make sure you choose your words more carefully next time..
2006-07-19 17:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by NIKFAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god that was pretty harsh....haha. Nothing flowers cant fix....its a relationship so what men do when they screww up bring her a present and tell her you love her and beg for forgivness and let her know that you were trying to be funny and you meant nothing by that.....you know the drill lol good luck :-)
2006-07-19 17:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Glittergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really your best friend then she should forgive and forget. Otherwise, try (if possible) buying her like a mall gift card for a small amount, or a gift card from one of her favorite stores to shop at....if you think it's worth it and if you have done her wrong... You don't really sound that cruel anyway....she must've taken it too personally....
2006-07-19 17:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next, is to accept that "timing" is everything; if you are a law student, you could never miss the moment of offense when you are the defense. That's a test question! Good luck.
2006-07-19 18:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to think before you speak and realize that sarcasm has no place in friendship!
There really is nothing you can do at this point. It is up to her to forgive you. She will if she is your best friend.
Sounds more like a Freudian slip....???
2006-07-19 17:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by mammma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny because I have done things like that but not to that magnitude. Sorry for thinking it's funny. Give it time she will understand I hope.
2006-07-19 17:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋