I am almost 16 and have never had a real b/f!! If u see my last question...my friends seem to think something is wrong with me or something. Which gets me thinking that I'm not good enough and play hard to get way 2 much!! I have been working on loosing weight and changing things about myself and I havent had ANY luck!! Am I pathetic or what?????
2006-07-19 17:33:22 · 25 answers · asked by *thenumba1chick* 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
No, you are not pathetic. Why worry about holding yourself to a timeline that your friends are putting out there for you? Don't worry about what they are saying - worry about finding a quality guy that you like.
Don't worry about changing yourself - unless it is for medical or self happiness reasons. Part of finding love is being comfortable with yourself and finding someone you are comfortable with.
2006-07-19 17:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello The numba1: I'll let you into a secret. The majority of boys are scared silly of beautiful girls - they have far lower self esteem than even you appear to have. They are frightened of a refusal and therefore do not ask for dates. Hold your head up high and set your targets on the boys you really like. Get to know them and talk to them, they will come around. I have also found that the beautiful girls with low esteem generally have brothers who treat them very badly. This also changes with time. So, relax show off your good features, try to do something with those you are not happy with and accept those you cannot change. Life at your age should be wonderful with the future opening up in front of you. Grab it while you can - everything will work out in the near future. Be confident....................
2006-07-20 00:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not pathetic. Girls mature faster than guys do, so you may want to wait until you get to college, where the social scene is sooo much better.
Playing hard to get is a good thing. You want to make yourself special. You don't want to be a common girl. (Just don't be stuck up about it)
Stop comparing yourself to others. It's OK to be 16 and not have had a boyfriend. Who says you have to?
Keep losing weight (as long as you stay healthy) to feel better about yourself, and to improve yourself, but don't do it for anyone else.
Good luck, and say your prayers!
2006-07-20 00:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by LaCosaMasBella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not. You are only 16yrs old. There are a lot of girls that really didn't date until after high school. I am one of them. I was more into having fun and hanging out with friends. Guys took up to much of my time at that age. Anyways at that age all the boys want is sex, and that is the last thing you should be worried about right now. Stop worrying, have fun, life is too short and when you are older and wiser you will realize that you didn't waste your high school years trying to impress boys, instead you had fun!
2006-07-20 00:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by ticklingtoyz4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not pathetic sweetie. Do not rush to get a boyfriend. Losing weight is hard but it do take time, like finding the right b/f. Love yourself first and then everything else will fall in to place.
2006-07-20 00:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by JO`NAE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong with you.. i didnt really have a boyfriend until i was 17.. its just not your time so why do you wanna rush it? You're friends arent being to supportive sayin theres something wrong with you.. theres nothing wrong at all.. and you dont have to play hard to get with guys.. but at the same time you dont want to be TOO available.. but its not a big deal.. bf's cause headaches trust me.. lol and its way more fun to just date around.. theres no need for a serious bf your only 16 you still have lots of time..
2006-07-20 01:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by prezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not pathetic...just do what makes u comfortable. dont worry about what others think or u will let urself be pushed and rushed into things u dont want to be. i didnt have a boyfriend until i was almost eighteen because i didnt want to deal with the kissing thing! i think it is gross when u are not serious and stuff so i would turn down guys...just be urself and whatever happens will happen!
2006-07-20 00:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by butterflidesi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all ....boys are fun but they can also be small distractions when it comes to you doing school work or caring about yourself. Let it just happen naturally you have plenty of time to date guys and dont let you friends bother you ....you can just focus on other things wayyy more important then having a boyfriend. They are pain in the asses anyway....enjoy being young....and have fun
2006-07-20 00:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Glittergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can be pathetic at 16. It's just not possible. You've gotta be a lot older to be pathetic.
2006-07-20 00:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. I didnt have a boy friend till I was 17. It doesnt mean you're not good enough. Instead, you should be happy you're not 'settling' for someone who is bad for you.
Chin up girl, you're great. I see you are working on your self esteem and making yourself a better person. Just do it for YOU. There will come a great guy who will love you for yourself.
2006-07-20 00:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by D'oh! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋