Ok...I love sex, masturbation...all that jazz. But lately I have been having a hard time climaxing. I think I'm forcing it out too hard. Is there something mental or physical I can do to change this?
2006-07-19 17:30:47 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth R 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Stop for a while. Next time you try, just relax.
2006-07-19 17:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many of the ladies have already given you a fairly consistent answer.
However, you may be one of the women who enjoys sex a great deal and who does not need necessarily to abstain in order to enjoy and achieve climax. A very dear friend of mine would have sex nonstop all the time if it were practical and she didn't get too sore after a few days (she's tried it). Even when she takes breaks she can't wait to start again. And she doesn't climax all the time - or, that is, she didn't until she started lactating. Now she gets off at the moment of insertion and it just goes on and on .... (She induced lactation.)
The advice you got about over-stimulation of one particular area seems consistent with what i've learned. You may wish to have sex or masturbate using other positions and techniques that stimulate the g-spot more - that's internal to the vagina, in the wall area roughly inside opposite the clit. Many women prefer the "doggy" position specifically because intercourse usually stimulates this area more. Many women say that g-spot orgasms are far more inense than clitoral.
If you enjoy anal stimulation you might try one of the various appliances for that while you have inercourse or masturbate. Again, some women I know actually get off harder that way - but some people dislike it or find it disgusting; it's a personal matter.
But usually climax for both men and women is first and foremost a mental state. Anxiety about achieving orgasm is almost guaranteed to make sure it doesn't happen; and in men, of course, this usually induces impotence. It's absolutely a case of the harder you try, the harder it is likely to achieve. As you said, perhaps you are forcing things. That friend of mine who likes constant sex discovered she would acieve very powerful orgasms when she absolutely "let go," not worrying about either having the climax or trying to control it. It was when she released herself from control issues that she began erupting like a volcano. I can tell you that for her partner it is absolutely wonderful, too.
Take it easy, try new things, and above all, don't worry. Have fun and good luck.
2006-07-20 00:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Der Lange 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on getting to the climax stage so much. Focus on the foreplay.
Also your body is tired of sex. Give it a rest for a while, this includes masturbation as well. You can hurt yourself doing it, at least make you sore.
2006-07-19 17:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by KelBean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you masturbate too much you can kinda ware down the nerves in that area making them less sensitive. It can take longer or feel less great. I suggest waiting a few days 3-7 and do it when you are more awake. There are probably 100 things more you can do but those were two that got me.
Note: The nerves will heal or whatever after a few days.
2006-07-19 17:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope your old enough for sex. Girls usually don't orgasiem as often. If you're wanting every day- That's too much. It's okay to not climax once in a while.
2006-07-19 17:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop have just sex, and start making love. Stop trying so hard. If you were addicted, you would not have a problem. Sounds like you are insecure
2006-07-19 17:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget masturbation, have sex with me, i'll give u a pipedown like u never experienced. lolz. j/k
2006-07-19 17:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by WiseGuyRobin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you need to relax, go run you a warm bath with bubbles, get some candles and soft music and work at is slowly, dont try to do it every time, just take your time
2006-07-19 17:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by SUNSHINE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you recently started taking any new non prescription or prescription medicines? Also some OTC herbs and vitamins could be the culprit
2006-07-19 17:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Amy S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u need some good old fashioned BONDAGE. u need a new thrill to do the job. try doing it in public places like dressing rooms, bathrooms at walmart and whatnot
2006-07-19 17:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body -- the same with most drugs -- has become accustomed to the same, old... same old. You may need to change the pace, the routine-- hell, even get a partner if you want.
^-^; Good luck, querida.
2006-07-19 17:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by Hatake Seraph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋