Does being married really keep you commited?

Question

I'm writing for a magazine, I was wondering if anyone could help me out. I need to know who has cheated or been cheated on in a relationship? Please tell me if you are or were married or not. It's about who gets cheating on more, married or dating people... And whether beening married keeps you commited.

Answer 1

I have to give that a big fat no! Marriage does not guarantee commitment, unfortunately. I have never been cheated on but I have seen many that have.It's heartbreaking really. It's a subject that makes me so sad. People don't take marriage seriously anymore. So many people have the attitude, "If it doesn't work, we'll just get a divorce!". It's all about meeting the right person. My husband is amazing. I don't even take a second glance at guys. Why would I? I believe in soul mates. Soul mates guarantee commitment!

Answer 2

You have to be committed while being married. I think whoever gets cheated on or is the cheater, isn't committed wheither they are married or not. If someone is going to cheat, they will do it if they are married and/or dating. A marriage certificate doesn't make the person automatically not cheat, it is a type of person that will cheat. A cheater is insecure, dishonest, unhappy, selfish and disrespectful. What keeps us committed is our respect, honesty and love we have for eachother. Being married just seals the deal. We can't imagine cheating especially now having children.

Answer 3

First of all it has nothing to do with whether your married or not as far as cheating goes its the type of person u are, and the type of person your partner is.. if they have cheating tendencies and have lack of morals and values, thats where the problem come in to play whether your married or just dating.. My first husband did cheat on me.. we were both young but even at 18 i knew what i was doing when i said I do.. and knew the life long commitment i was making.. unfortunately although he talked the talk, he couldnt walk the walk.. and for along time i thought it was me, why he cheated.. but by the time he was 27 years old he was on his 3rd marriage , i was his first.. and i did some snooping and found out that even with his current wife he has cheated on her, although i dont think she knows this.. so although my x husband loves the idea of marriage he cant live up to the vows and responsibilities of being married .. My new husband and i are very happily married, we share the same views on marriage, my husband has no past history of ever cheating on anyone in his past and hasnt given me any just cause to think that he would cheat on me as well.. he believes in what the bible says although he doesnt attend church every sunday.. (just so u know hes not a bible thumper) but his religion is his core beliefs and he not only said his vows on the day of our marriage he does his best to live by them and so do i..
So its the type of person u are, not marital status...

Answer 4

Before i got married to my husband, i cheated on him. I also, have lied to him most of our relationship too. He doesn't know, about any of it. I know, that i only married him, so that he could take care of me. He has half of the way. Lately, i've been finding ways to leave him. We haven't even been married 6 months yet. Yes, i have been cheating, since we've been married too. I have never really been faithful, in any of my relationship's. I thought that he was the one for me? I guess, marriage doesn't change anyone. Maybe, some but in the end noone really!!!! I think it's the age too. I'm 19 and he's 22.

Answer 5

i would love to do what you do write columns about relationships I'm married now Ive also been divorced when i was younger people always think of men as being the main ones who cheats in a relationship but that's not the case at all women cheat too I've been on both sides of the fence I've cheated before and i have been cheated on but women are highly under estimated they're just quieter when their unfaithful man get whipped by attention or sex and then they get careless and get caught the older you get i mean maturity wise you stay true and committed and settle down

Answer 6

I've been cheated on while single and while married. A wedding ring didn't keep me immune from being cheated on. The only way a person won't cheat on someone is if they are TRULY committed to the other, with or without a ring.

Answer 7

I've never been married, but I have been "the other woman". My opinion is that if someone is going to cheat on his/her spouse, it is not anyone else's responsibility to stop him or her. I won't say that I was an innocent in the relationship, but I feel that he would have cheated, whether with me or someone else, and since I never took vows or made promises to his wife, I wasn't breaking those vows.

I think that it's important to note that "cheating" means different things to different people, as well. To some, you have to actually have sex with someone else to be considered "cheating", but others would say that a flirtation with another woman is "cheating".

I don't believe that being married keeps anyone committed; it's their love for the other person that keeps them in the relationship.

Answer 8

I am not married. I have not been cheated. But in my opinion just to answer your question, dating people do not really cheat technically because after all they are still free. So if you are dating one and you're interested in another it's okay IF you will leave the other but if you do it simultaneously that's cheating. However marriage has to be a lifetime commitment. It has to be. While dating lets you leave a person for another, marriage can't. I don't believe in divorce.

Answer 9

Getting married is being commited to be responsible. if u can't b responsible then dont get married ? stay single . but u wood surely be missing the charm of marraige life. it wood b cream less life. very boaring , staying all alone. and man n woman r never same on this planet , their thoughts are different , they life styles r different . so one must not think whos wrong n whos right , or whos cheating and whos been cheated , its just the way u think . if u continuously keep on tracing ur mind that he is negative he is not good , he is cheater , u wont come up to solution , rather think he is a man , he is different than a woman thinkings

Answer 10

I have been married for 17 years, I do not cheat on my husband and he does not cheat on me. Marriage is not what stops people from cheating, nor does it make them cheat, Love and respect is what makes it unnecessary (and sometimes fear of the other one killing them, ha ha)

If you don't have that respect of each other and the relationship I can see why people stray, but personally I would not stay in a relationship that I did not respect, I would rather be alone.