My parents are getting a divorce. Most kids my age feel sad if this happens to their parents. But i dont, at least not yet. Should i be feeling sad?
2006-07-19 16:26:06 · 10 answers · asked by V_S_Jag12 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
There is no right or wrong way to feel. But if you do start to feel sad, make sure you talk about it with someone. And remember, your parents getting divorce doesnt change that they love you.
2006-07-19 16:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by realgirl768553 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People handle things in lots of different ways. If your parents are unhappy and arguing alot. You may be feeling a sense of relief. Therefore it's hard for you to feel sad. Maybe you're just mature enough to know that some people are better apart than together. Some part of you may know deep down that this is what's better for everyone. Just be glad that you can be strong and not fall apart. It makes things alot better all the way around. If you do start to feel sad later, just pray for God to give you peace of mind and go with it. This would also be a normal feeling to have.
2006-07-20 00:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by chitchenitza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you "should" feel sad. All situationns are different. When my mom and dad split I was happy! They both had just been so miserable for so long, that I was glad that it was over.
Don't beat yur self up because they are splitting up. You don't really say how you do feel.
Don't freak out if you never feel sad. Or even bad about it.
It may get a little wierd sometimes. There is a lot to deal with in this situation. Just talk to someone if you need to, to help you put your feelings in order.
2006-07-19 23:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings depend on the circumstances. You may find yourself taking turns with several strong emotions, relief, guilt, fear, hurt, anger, etc.
Everything is going to change now, part of this will force you to make adult decisions you didn't need to consider before. You may also find yourself at the center of your parent's disagreement or find them in need of your attention to validate their own self-worth.
Try and stay cool, be honest with them and don't let them force you to choose sides, if that comes up look for anyplace else to go visit for a while.
2006-07-19 23:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by Merris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not there yet it will come .(the hurt that is) I hope you have a strong older brother,sister,uncle,aunt,grandparents etc. to help you through it. Just stay close to both parents that helps the most. Don't blame either one of your parents and remember this is their failure not yours. Good luck kid. God be with you.
2006-07-19 23:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Everyone mourns their parents divorce differently.
2006-07-19 23:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by igɳo★ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault and it is something that happens for a lot of kids it works out pretty well you actually see more of your parents and you don't have to listen to all the fighting
2006-07-19 23:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by harleythom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how u feel about ur parents i guess. i would be happy if mine got one. my mom is always gone with another guy and my parents dont even talk. they just kinda avoid each other.
2006-07-19 23:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if there was abuse. If none, give yourself time to come to terms with what is happening, you will feel the right emotions at the right time.
2006-07-19 23:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Sometimes it takes a while to sink it, too.
2006-07-19 23:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Debi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋