I met my ex best friend 4 years ago but it took until the end of last year to realize that I was in love with her.... I couldn't really deal with it so a few months later thanks to another ex friend's bitchiness I ended my friendship with her... but I've always had the feeling that she felt the same way... but now we both have boyfriends... but I'm still thinking about her.... and she's thinking about me too because every time she goes on her Myspace she's always on my page.... there's even this song she put that I think has to do with me it's by Daphne Loves Derby "Pollen and Salt"
Idk....I love my boyfriend but I've known this girl for a long time and I can't get over her... should I tell her how I feel and risk getting my heart broken? or just leave it?
2006-07-19 16:23:39 · 12 answers · asked by yesterdaysfeelings425 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her how you feel, you miss her and she misses you, maybe you can be best friends again without the relationship. not that it is bad, it just seems to me that you have moved on to another direction, men. I guess you CAN have your cake and eat it too. that's sweet.
2006-07-19 16:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not what you catagorize as a homophobic but I do know right from wrong and going after some sort of relationship with a former best friend that happens to be female isnt gonna help you out one bit.
You stated you have a boyfriend now that you love and have a good relationship with so why on earth would you want to throw that away because of your "feelings" for this other person?
You say you cant get over her, but yes you can if you choose to and want to .... its up to you plain and simple. Do you realize that what you are thinking of doing is solely based on physical feelings not those of love......you are craving the closeness you had with her and that is not love....its purely physical.
Arent you close to your boyfriend? If you ask me you need to be working on the relationship with him and not fantazing or thinking about this other girl.... are you ready to hurt your boyfriend and cause him alot of heartache because of what you think you feel?
My advice to you is to leave it and work on the relationship with your boyfriend...... if you love him then its worth it to work on it and stick with him.... because if you do go after this person all it is gonna lead to is a broken heart and more.
Good luck to you and ill be praying for you.
2006-07-20 00:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by wendyceline2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can start by trying to be back in each others lives again, call her and appoligize for not being her friend lately ask her to meet you somewhere (depending on your age, maybe lunch or the mall or a picnic) then talk and reconnect. You will know what to do from there.
Good luck and try not to hurt your boyfriend in the process.
2006-07-19 23:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it wouldn't hurt to have her true feelings about you without the guys knowing. At least you both have a shoulder to lean on if it doesn't work out. But at least ask....let her tell you how she feels. If she wants you, see if it's for real before you both dump your guys. You know how dumb they can be. Either way, I dont' see that you have anything to lose. Go Girl! You're heart will lead the way!
2006-07-19 23:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a chance... talk to her privately.. your best friends right? then you've probably been through thick and thin. Tell her you dont want to cause any weirdness between you both.. but you've always had feelings for her.. and wonder if she felt the same. if she says no.. or looks kind of awkward.. then tell her.. its ok dont worry about it. at least you will know and still have her friendship
2006-07-19 23:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by tansyangeni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the worst that can happen is for her to say that she doesn't feel the same way. If she is a true friend she will still be there.
2006-07-19 23:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by aprillillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, Doesn't that already breaks you up inside just by not letting it off your chest?
Tell her what you feel and take that risk.
Cause if love is what you feel then you've got to be ready to jump in front of the bullet for her.
2006-07-19 23:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her so you can get on with your life one way or another.
2006-07-19 23:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell her how you feel.cause who knows she may have the same feelings about you as u have for her. good luck
2006-07-19 23:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her it only hurts you more not knowing right?
2006-07-19 23:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋