2006-07-19 16:20:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
It doesn't always. It can be overcome.
2006-07-19 16:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean shyness in various social settings? Not everyone is socially gregarious by nature. Some people are loners and feel comfortable in their own skins. They might like and enjoy others but only to a certain extent because being with people a lot can be emotionally draining for these types of personalities. If you have a socially gregarious friend, it would be interesting to observe what turns him or her on. Then you will see the difference.
2006-07-19 23:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness isn't a childhood problem. It's a person's confidence problem. Most people are shy because they're afraid of something (being laughed at, rejected, etc). Then you have people who are overconfident and make asses out of themselves and don't realize they're doing it! You have to find a balance between the two. Though even if you are confident and outgoing a lot of people are still inwardly shy and nervous. You always see big performers say how nervous they get before a show.
2006-07-19 23:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown that shyness is largely a result of genetics with environment affecting it, as well. It's hard to change your genes.
I have experienced shyness most of my life and have found that it's better than when I was young, but still there. And, I have a heart murmer. My doctor told me that anxiety (and thus shyness) occurs more with people who have heart murmers. It's best to accept it and find ways of dealing with it.
Gradual practice with situations that cause you the most stress can help ease the syptoms
2006-07-19 23:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by diane k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is part of your personality... HOWEVER, you really CAN learn to force yourself to become more outgoing. If you are shy (and I was painfully shy almost all my life...I couldn't talk to strangers on the phone and won't call my extended family -- aunts/cousins, etc without my mom first talking to them!) then you will never become a life-of-the-party extrovert... BUT you can learn to speak in front of people, strike up a conversation, etc. It's taken me years but now I can speak in front of people, lead songs, give presentations, etc without a big problem. It helps if you can close your eyes for a couple of seconds, pretend that you are a famous actor/actress and then just ACT as if you were outgoing. There are lots of books/tapes that you can buy in order to learn how to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, just try to remember this: Find 1 thing to compliment ("This is a nice car" or "That color looks nice on you") and 1 thing to ask about ("Do you know much about this photographer?" or "Have you always lived close by?") Something else that is good is to ask people at parties is "What is your full name and how did your parents choose it?" OR if the people have children, "How did you pick your kids' names?" Those questions always get people talking about themselves and opening up!
2006-07-19 23:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by mnstlgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a wacky theory that shyness comes from the fight or flight reaction (flight). This is the reaction that triggers or is triggered by adrenaline. The result of adrenaline is that the body releases sugar into the bloodstream from storage (usually the liver) to prepare the body for fighting or running.
If your brain is chronically low on blood sugar (hypoglycemia) it may trigger this reaction in order to get its blood sugar "fuel".
I inherited hypoglycemia from my dad, and may have had it since birth. I definitely had my shy periods, and have always worried about others opinions of me, even though I have been taught that I should not use others to measure myself. Sometimes it does not help to know that, though.
2006-07-19 23:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up a book called "Living With our Genes" by Hamer and Copeland. the first couple chapters could help.
2006-07-19 23:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by A.I. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it gets worse as you get older, I was not shy as a kid AT ALL, and now, it's not that I'm shy, but I am more careful of showing emotions or talking in public...
2006-07-19 23:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by janmarbol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity that the person has never overcome.
2006-07-19 23:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very shy and can't get over it no matter how much I try.
2006-07-20 00:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by dollyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they haven't experienced any much more to have changed.
2006-07-19 23:24:19 · answer #11 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋