My wife and I (married 3 years, together 7) emigrated to NZ from the UK 6 months ago; we rented a lovely house near beach, bought all the furniture etc; then 2 weeks later she admits that she does not feel the same way about me. Over the next 5 months her behavior gets weirder and weirder; she flirted online with men, sent naked photos of herself to her best male friend (who is married) then I find out she has been sleeping with a bloke in the office. She left me 6 weeks ago and only told me about new bloke by email. She has been telling people that we have had big problems for 2 years....why not tell me this before we emigrated. I am stuck on myown 12000 miles from home; I have made a few friends and trying to get on with my life. Can I get her back, do I walk away - HELP! this is all a HUGE shock and I am not sure she is straight in the head. We have always got on so well; but she is a quiet one that has problems talking through her feelings. Any suggestions???
2006-07-19 16:18:26 · 7 answers · asked by will_ashcr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You Are much better off without someone like that in your life..
When you love someone you dont treat them half as badly as she has treated you.
Start socialising, or join a club and makes some friends, It will make you feel better about your life, You will eventually find a nice woman, Who will treat you well and with respect.
Best if you cut complete contact with her, I know it will be hard, But it will make the healing process take longer if your still in contact with her.
Good luck
Maybe go home for a short holiday and see supportive friends and family
2006-07-19 16:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever accept her back!!!! I feel so damn angry hearing this reminds me of my wife cheating on me 4 times and i stupidly accepted her back after what she has done to me when i could had move on to a better lady.I mean Chill out dude Get a grip and dont feel sad about it dont you loose it ok? You must be depressed right now and what you need is a little andrenalin prolly go out for a fast drive or do somthin extreme with someone. Start flirting do what you never did before cause Dude! "Your not at lost you have everything now a house of your own. Start a fresh throw everything she left behind forget about her cause if you dont then its going to remind you of her. So start a fresh make some new friends throw a party at your place and do what you couldnt do when u were married. Trust me she's not worth it breaking you apart so move....... on!
2006-07-19 16:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a cow ... her timing is shocking and inconsiderate!!
I think you have two options:
1. Sell all the stuff and go back to the UK; or
2. Enjoy NZ (my home country!) and make the most out of being there. NZers are generally fairly friendly and outgoing, so get out there and get involved. You could also try joining NZ Dating, and meet friends that way.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-19 17:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ Nickels ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 09:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Sorry dude, better, you don't want to spoile your reputation over this.. Look at this as an learning experience. and Move on, think of it as how bad it might sound your wife turned into a slut..
You in NZ, there are tons of Beautiful women there, or go over to Australia in Melbourne.. the ladies are so nice there and pretty..
2006-07-19 16:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Arun M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a bloke is something you clean a chimney with, or something like that.
2006-07-19 17:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is a bloke?
2006-07-19 16:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋