Now, I'm a guy who is just playing devil's advocate as he is bored. So, I ask. What is the point of marriage these days? Before, it was a religious ceremony to show dedication to another person or a way to give a women away to a man to begin a family ( so I've heard). But today, with the ease in getting a divorce, rate of divorce, and lack of a need to take in a life partner seeing as they can get finacial security much more easily thanbefore. is marriage something that should exist today? or is it just away to make a break up troublesome? Why get married? Why not just give the gift of fidelity and time? Seriously.
2006-07-19 16:03:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I often think about the same things you do. I have so many friends in marriages. Half of them are having an affair. Lots of them are in therapy. Some are happy,but you never really know what goes on behind closed doors. I would ultimately like to believe that love is the final answer to marriage. But there are many other factors, unfortunately, that play into the mix, like money, ambitions, trust, similar goals, etc... I look at everyone around me, going on to second marriages. Getting divorced. Spouses cheating on each other. It is very discouraging at times.
2006-07-19 16:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CA is NOT a common law state, most states are not common law, there fore marriage is a financial legal and enforcable contract that unfairly sets the split against men. women claim they want equality but when it comes to divorce they are the first to whip out the lawyers. since most states are no fault, men has no say weather or not a divorce can proceed, not does a judge, he ( the judge ) merely facilitate the proceeding and divides the assests. if a women was to marry, cheat on her husband and then file for divorce, there is nothing them man can do, he'' end up paying 50% of his salary, sell of there house if it was aquired with her ( even if she's a stay at home woman earning no income ), you question rings true, indeed the only reason a womne gets married is for finacial gain, plain and simple, few will stay together, as when thy get older thy want some form of finacial security to tether to incase the marriage fails, and since it worse than 50% divorce rate ( in souther california it 66% ) it , from a business standpoint ( remember it's according to the law a contract ) makes no financial sense, the terms are not equal much less favorable towards men who earn the majority of the money. you last suggestion of giving the gift of fidelity and time sounds idealistic, but if that concept ever took hold, womne would merely ammned current laws so that living together would equal common law or palimony at the minimum.
2006-07-19 16:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, Dude, marriage is important to a man and woman who want a family. Today, girls are spitting out babies and they don't even know who the daddy is. This is pathetic. Marriage protects children and women and gives them some legal rights. It also protects adults from cheating on each other....if they honor their vows. It splits property equally. And you have to have a lawyer to get out of it. So I would say, YES...it is necessary if a couple are serious about loving and having a family...not for just humping and making a baby that no one will care for. It's a tragedy for the children. Shack up if you're not having kids...and are protected....get married if you're planning a family. That's the way it's suppose to be.
2006-07-19 16:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good point. I have begun to wonder myself why people bother. I grew up with the idea of "happily ever after" but life (and divorce) have changed my outlook. I don't know if I would ever marry again. I already have children, so that would not be an issue. Many places of employment now give "life partner" benefits so why get married at all? It would be a lot cheaper to walk away than to pay for a divorce.
2006-07-19 16:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would still take marraige seriously, but these days it is just not worth spending thousands of dollars on weddings that last until the couple get into a argument, then its automatically a divorce. People these days do not take their vows seriously.
2006-07-19 16:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe the negative hype you hear about marriage. People are getting married....people are staying married.....people believe in marriage.....people don't want to divorce.....people work at their marriage. Just like the evening news you don't hear about the ones that work you hear about the ones that don't.
***marriage is a legal contract, the religious aspect is an "etc."
2006-07-19 16:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant say as it matters in most states now living together constitutes common law marriage, and in california you may as well be
2006-07-19 16:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by pisof49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should if you really love the person and are committed to them.
2006-07-19 16:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I am wondering the samething....
2006-07-19 16:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Arun M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wonder the same thing as u too
2006-07-19 16:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋