Should are shouldn't we?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been going together for 2 years. I am 18 and he's 20. I am 4 1/2 months pregnant. Does anyone think it's a good idea to get married at this age? I love him and he loves me. We know everything about each other. He has asked me to marry him twice but I haven't really responded. I'm ready I just know marriage is hard work.

Answer 1

Darling, I think if you love each other enough to have a child, then you should get married. It's obvious he wants to do the "right thing" but he loves you enough to ask....if you love him enough, then go for it. It's hard work, but nothing like raising a baby. If you love each other then it will all work out in the end, just don't try to sabotage it, then it will be bad. Be honest, open and communicate everything and respect each other and it's all good.

Answer 2

Let me tell you girl if you have always thought you would marry at sometime in the future the work you talk about never gets easier with age. You are at a great age to take the plunge but only if this is the right person.

You already have the family just not made it official.
If you fear the work involved in marriage when do you think it will get better. Any relationship is work if it is to be a good one.
You have been together 2 years, you are pregnant, so what makes you think getting married will be any different than what you have already been through? And when raising that baby you will need help.

You both are young no question. And you will change like you will not believe over just the next few years. But the reason for that change is you will become more mature and responsible.

If you are not already one thing you could try is living together.
That will tell you what marriage is like and you may not fear it so.
Give it some thought but don't throw away a love out of fear. Learn all you can from it.

Answer 3

I think U r too young to get married..just my opinion, because in 2 yrs U really don't know him yet. On top this baby thing is not going to be easy on the relationship, so take ur time and see how things go when the baby arrives. Babies bring joy but they also end relationships too. And we still haven't talked about the pressure of the marriage. I think U just need more time. U will probably be in love 5 more times before U have found the one U want to spend the rest of ur life with. Marriage is suppose to be forever.Good Luck!

Answer 4

You are young, but you now have a "family" to think about.
Sounds like you HAVE already thought about marriage, if you know it's hard work! That's very comendable on your part!
Are you willing to DO the hard work? That's the question you need to ask yourself!
If you love each other, know everything about each other and are pregnant, then I say "go for it!"
You could consider some counseling prior to getting married. That way, you'll be given more insight to your long commitment.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck. Hope my answer helps you!

Answer 5

Given all of the facts, I think you should get married. Your ages may or may not be a factor in the future. There are no guarantees, one way or another. I know that being married makes a couple work harder to stay together. And with a little one on the way...well, babies need the best start their parents can give them, and the sense of stability of having a mother and father committed to creating a family. Parents who are in it for the long haul, in other words, and marriage solidifies and makes legal that commitment. If you don't want to get married for yourself, do it for your child. And here's bonus points to your boyfriend for being a mature, stand-up guy...he has my deep respect.

Answer 6

Raising a child is just as hard as marriage. If you're ready for marriage, you should go for it.

But -- and I know this sounds patronising -- I know I'm a vastly different person now to when I was 18 or even 20. and you don't lose anything by waiting a few more years to make sure that you're both in it for the long haul.Besides, maybe then your child can be involved in the wedding!

Whatever you decide, good luck!

Answer 7

Only you can answer this question. Ask yourself would you get married at this particular time if you weren't pregnant? It's not that marriage is hard work,,,,,,,it's more like a job that you never stop working at. If it's the right person it's well worth it. I've been married since before you were born and we're still in love and still working at it. :-)

Answer 8

There isn't a perfect age for marriage. If you two really love each other than do it! Of course, marriage is hard work. Having and raising a kid is hard work too, but thats not gonna keep you from doing that now, is it? That will just make your marriage a little easier,(in my opinion). Congratulations!

Answer 9

Marriage is hard work; so is raising a baby on your own without help. Marriage is suppose to be about family and babies. I think you both have a good chance at a good married relationship especially if you seek counseling beforehand. He loves you...that's importnat. The baby needs his father..that's important. See a counselor now and express your concerns.

Answer 10

you know what doll you can get married but make sure you know that he is the mr right...i know it may seem right now that he is the only guy and so on but i am telling you through experience i got married young and when i was in 20's i felt for other guys so pliz make up your mind very properly and don't just get married because of the kid you should really love this guy and just sit for a while and imagine yourself after 10 years......do you see you, him and your kid happy and having a wonderfull life than i would say go for it...n ya congrats on your baby......