i've been separated 2 years and me and him are getting divorced. i hear it's a sin. i tried to ask him if we could work things out. but he says we should just get a divorce and see what happens later. i'm the one who left. however, we met up a few times and started being friend with benefits. yet he still don't seem to want to work things out. it hurts me so much. and i'm scared of disapointing God. and what if i meet someone else. will the relationship/marriage be a sin forever since i'm divorced?
2006-07-19 15:35:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are, you're going to have about 65% of the population with you. Jesus said...."because of the hardening of your hearts you seek to put aside your wife". So I guess God knew what we would do in the first place. Ask forgiveness and forgive yourself. Then go on and do what's right next time. This will give your spirit the peace it needs to find the right husband for you. God's love to you.
2006-07-19 15:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you will go to hell for getting a divorce, God's idea is for a man and woman to be together and be happily married, yet he will not condemn you to hell because you choose to get divorced. The only sin that sends you to hell is that which you decide not to accept jesus as your personal savior, Although he does say that marriage is for better or for worse! These beliefs are also depending on which religion you practice. Catholic religion does not believe in divorce under any circumstances other that abuse, or adultery in which the cheater will be damned and the spouse will be saved. But ok so back to the question I am a catholic and my beliefs are as follows, If you are truly unhappy with your husband I do beleif if you have made all efforts to save your marriage, and nothing is coming together then you should get divorced and go on and be happy, although I do not believe you should keep being such good friends no more benefits for either of you that just gives you both false hope. I hope this helps!!! Tabetha
2006-07-19 15:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tabetha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your relationship status and the hurt you must be feeling.
Certainly, God's plan is for us not to divorce and that he hates it for good reason. Due to all the pain and suffering it causes. The divorce is not the sin, it's the sins(selfishness, pride, etc) that have put the both of you in that situation in your relationship.
God is so merciful so please turn to him and pray. Especially if you do not know Christ-accept him as your saviour and receive his forgiveness for all of your sins.
Hell is reserved for those who choose not God's provision for sin. He's holy and sin can not enter heaven so God in his love made a place for those who do not receive Jesus.
Consider Jesus and he may just turn your partner around but know this he loves you and has a plan for your life even if things do not work out the way you have hoped.
2006-07-19 15:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey nobody goes to hell for getting a divorce. Imagine the trauma of living in a marriage where u drag thru everyday and think thank god today is over. its better getting a divorce than living in such a marriage.best thing would be u take some time to develop a hobby and start meeting friends or better yet start dating. it will help your mind get off the past .
2006-07-19 18:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got married in front of a clergyman/woman, and you promised to be together until death do you part in front of God, you have an obligation to try to make your marriage work..get counseling, if necessary, etc. However...I don't think it's a sin to get a divorce. It's a failure, not a sin. If he doesn't love you any longer and you are just staying married because you think you should, there's no hope for your marriage and you should get a divorce.
2006-07-19 15:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - You are NOT going to hell for getting divorced.
If you are Catholic, your church does not condone divorce but if you are a believer in a loving God who has a plan for you and wants you to be happy ... don't worry.
What you DO need to do is get rid of that man as soon as possible. Do NOT allow him to be "friends with benefits". He's just using you and you deserve better.
You deserve to be with someone who loves you more than himself and who really, really wants to be with you.
Get rid of the current guy and move on to better things. God loves you and will be happier with that decision than if you stay married to this turkey and let him keep using you.
God Bless -
2006-07-19 15:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by BigBadBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not i the bible theres pages 4 forgiveness! thats not a sin if it didnt work out than it didnt ! ask god 4 forgiveness whenever we do something bad theres like a wall but god forgives! hes watching u and he knows why it happened either way its not a sin dont b scared the only way u'd really b going 2 hell is if u dont accept him into ur life ! havent u ever heard of the 10 commandments? now those r sins!u need 2 worry about
2006-07-19 15:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a sin. Who said such a thing? God hates divorces but he doesn't when it involves adultery in it. Now if adultery didn't happen maybe you guys should try and work it out before you go ahead and plan a divorce.
2006-07-19 15:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell would be awfully crowded with the divorce rate these days. Haven't you heard.. God is pretty forgiving? He knows we make bad choices, sometimes it is the people we marry. I know for me God didn't expect me to stay in a verbally abusive marriage that was causing my children and myself harm...he expected me to protect my kids and myself, I am divorcing. Your hubby if he refuses help or is sure it is over should be more worried. Let it go, realize God forgives and isn't that judgemental and be happy with your choices, some things were not meant to be.
2006-07-19 15:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will not hate you for getting divorced...He wants all people to be happy..and no it isn't a sin to meet someone else because you are divorced
2006-07-19 15:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋