He sneeks around at night pertentding to watch tv downstairs but I am not stupid. I am usually in bed waiting for him
2006-07-19 15:33:17 · 15 answers · asked by rene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's an addiction. Not one that he nor you can cure. He knows he has a problem. He loathes himself for doing it. Feelings of guilt weigh heavily and he does feel shame. He wishes he could stop. But it's an addiction like any other addiction.
He's not doing it because your not good enough. And it doesn't reflect negatively on you. You are not the cause in any way, shape, or form.
Professional counseling is the only way he is going to be able to deal with it. Don't let it ruin your marriage. Love him, communicate without hostility or threats, and try to persuade him to get help.
2006-07-19 16:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Obvious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that would work well with guys that have a bit of jealousy in them but it won't work on most of the others. It seems in his 100 Billion dollar industry and with over 55% of all websites pushing porn of some kind, it is a problem here to stay. I find that men tend to deny they have a problem until it tears the family apart!! Porn is an addiction I am told, just like drugs and alcohol. One needs to seek a more professional help if it gets to the point where any man would rather be with his "PORN" then with his wife. Yet, it happens all the time and indeed a major cause of Martial status in this country is the addiction to Porn. And indeed it is pushed upon us as a society by all angles. We are just starting to see how destructive this form of addiction can be!! I am glad that such a sensible lady could get her husband to quickly give up the smut so easily. However for many it is not so black and white and not so easily rid of!!
2016-03-16 02:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you get your husband to stop drinking water? How do you get your husband to stop breathing? I mean, these things are normal things that humans do. Sex is a healthy part of life. Why do you want him to stop watching something that is perfectly normal? Don't buy into the "pornography is unhealthy" nonsense. Instead of worrying about him watching porn, why not join him in watching it? Thousands, if not millions, of couples say watching pornography together enhances a healthy sex life. If you don't prefer watching porn, then don't, but don't stop him from watching it! I'm sure he's not crazy about some things that you do, but as long as you don't force him to participate in them, enjoy whatever it is that's enjoyable to you. Sacrifice is the key word here. There are worse things he could be watching.
2006-07-19 15:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Big D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but you guys need to deal with this. That is a possible marriage killer. It's not at all healthy.
xxxchurch.com
Now, if you aren't Christian, just do some reading. It really is harmful and really is addicting. Who did he marry? You or some whore on the internet.
One more thing you can share with him, 95% of those girls (in pornography), have been sexually abused. A majority have learning disabilities. A majority hate themselves and are addicted to some sort of substance.
It Feeeeelllls soooo good. (yea right).
2006-07-19 15:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i need to tell you that this is just too common. i usually watch it with my husband, but i have caught him at three o clock in the morning while i am asleep or have seen the websites on our computers history. these movies and websites are the same ones we view. what is the difference if her sees them in private. why does he have to hide? i felt bad when he did that that now i sleep with our bedroom door open and stay up until he comes back to bed. no, i don't have a hang up, just 8 months pg and insecure. oh, and dude, with the smart answer, if men were hotter we would not need vibrators. ;) p.s. has anyone actually caught their hubby masturbating ?
2006-07-19 16:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch it with him, Don't fight about it.It might be a phase, if it is deeply affecting his life he might need help, it could become a addiction, You don't mention any age, I will admit when I was younger it was a habit I had ,I am almost 50 now and it sometimes seems boring,
2006-07-19 15:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
evrybody that watches porn if for a different reason, as for myself, i watch it, and my wife joins in to watch it, she didnt want to at first but found that she likes it, i dont need the porn, we just find it intertaining,and it helps the mood, weve been married for 11 happy years now, and are still watching pornjust on friday nights,after everything else is done.we make sure house work is done, kids bathed and in bed,and when we feel like it we do it, and have a very nice time in bed
2006-07-20 11:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the same boat too. I don't know what to do either. Someone help us out. It's not that easy when he makes you feel you aren't good enough.Then it can make you feel dirty because he watches all that nasty mess and then reaches for you.
2006-07-19 15:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by raceo1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So pitch his collection of porn; you think he's just watching? He's jerking off to it too! this is not good for your relationship as he is depriving you of his love and affection. This is a selfish habit he has and you need to take drastic steps to straighten him out. Good Luck.
2006-07-19 15:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him forget about the porn by keeping him busy in the bed and if that dont work tell him to stop watching it because it bothers you. it worked for me so good luck.
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2006-07-19 15:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by reds141414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋