I am a guy, I have a girlfriend but I like this other guy and i think he is sexy, sweet, and smart. I don't wanna like guy, I didn't ask for this believe me, I am really confused, and desperate for a way to solve this. I mean today is me and my girlfriend's 7 month ani. I been like this guy for a while, What do I do????
2006-07-19 15:29:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Stop, stop, stop, my son. Slow down and take a deep breath...there. Okay, let's look at this. Based on what you told me, there is nothing wrong with admiring a person of the same sex. You can think someone is "sexy" without wanting to jump into bed with them. If you are having sexual fantasies about this person that might be a different story. You simply might admire this man for being what he is -- a smart, sweet sexy man. If this person was a girl you'd have no problem with liking her. Try the same for this man. You're not "gay" unless you want to be. Congratulations on your anniversary.
2006-07-19 15:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that the sexy, sweet, smart guy has more to offer then dump the twist and date the guy. I think you would be a lot happier. I know this is bothering you because you have asked this question before. I wish there was a simple answer for you.
2006-07-19 19:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can guarentee you're not the first person to feel like this. If you love your girlfriend, or even like her more than you like the guy, it's no problem because its just a crush that you have on the guy, however if you dont like the guy as much or more than your girlfriend, i suggest you talk to your girlfriend. She may be able to help you out. If she really cares about you, then she wont leave you, but help you.
Good luck for the future, buddy.
2006-07-19 19:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by i_am_nathan_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. first off, calm down. you sound like how i was 2 monthsa go. i also freaked out like you, which is what you are doing. btw i am 14 too.
i don't think that you're scared because you like someone else, i think you're scared because you think you are either gay or bi and it eats you up inside.
however, calm down.. it's not as bad as you think it is and trust me, it will get better. Now you're prolly thinking "oh, that's what everyone says, and it's not true." well boi, 2 months ago when i asked these questions, i said the same thing. I was like "screw them.. that's not what i want to hear." they were right tho.. it has gotten better.
you may just be going through a phase for all you know. plenty of guys do. maybe you're just curious. 35% of guys have had sex with a guy before. is 35% of the population gay? no.. maybe 10% - 15%, but not no 30% lol.
or you could be bi/gay, which is cool. just do not hide your feelings from yourself. i told myself at night "i am straight" wheni knew i was gay, but i said that to try to 'convince myself i was.' yet when i said it, i felt like hell. so then a few weeks ago i looked in the mirror and said "i am gay." i wasn't smiling or happy to admit it, but i didn't feel like i was lying.
live life and like who you want. this guy could be gay or bi for all you know. if he is, ask him out! make the move. :) there isn't nothing wrong with that. may some ppl say **** about you behind your back? maybe. however, half the homophobes are really gay and in denial. science has prooved this too, when these homophobes were tested.. they watched gay porn, and got really really hard and aroused.. 80% of them did.. so the next time you hear someone say they hate gays.. just remember that inside they probably are gay or bi, and in denial.
will your parents s*it their pants when they hear? maybe. why tho? it was just a surprise. they will get over it quicker than you think. you live in probably new york.. ppl there are pro choice. they don't take it badly.
live life and be who you want to be. f*ck those homophobes on here who say all this s*it about god hating gays. i believe in god, and i worship him, and i am a christian. however, i have studied the bible.. the god doesn't hate gays. all of the anti gay remarks were in the old testimenet.. lots of churches don't use that anymore. a lot of thsoe in the old testiment were in leviticus.. that part of the bible says that wearing two different types of clothing is a sin. not to mention all sins are equal. so if someone says "you've sinned" say "girl/boi, you're wearing jeans and a cotton shirt. that's a sin. all sins are equal. you sinned just as much as me." not to mention that god allowed slavery, he killed people, and allowed child and human sacrifise. yet we worship him and have forgiven him, correct? if you don't believe me about what god did, e-mail me and i can give you like a ton of proof and versus from the bible and stuff lol.
anyways, point being.. it's not as bad as you think it is. i am madly in love with this guy at school lol, and i am going to tell him i'm gay because i think he could be bi. even if not, he's like my best friend and doesn't hate gays.
so just live and be yourself. who cares what ppl think.. half those ppl are gay anyways.
good luck. :)
2006-07-19 21:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Me lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only natural for one to identify another of the same sex as being attractive. The question is are you attracted to them? If you are, you must realize this is a cross that you have to bear. Homosexuality is a sin against God and nature. There is no true happiness to be found in it. It will only lead you on a path to hell. If you have attraction to women, try to just focus on that and take part in a committed relationship (of course, abstaining from sex until marriage as God asks of us.)
The problem in today's world is everyone identifies every passing tempation and lust as "love." It's not. Focus on what God wants, pray for help. You cannot possibly be happy unless you do what God desires of you. :) God bless.
2006-07-19 17:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked this question several times already. Are you reading any of the answers? Are you waiting for somebody else to tell you to ditch the girl for the guy? You need to work through this and not be looking for other people to make up your mind for you.
2006-07-19 15:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"To thine own self be true." You cannot successfully live a lie. Your girlfriend has a right to know who you are... would you want to be deceived? Accept yourself... be yourself. Four years after I fell in love with my boyfriend, he told me about his history of homosexual behavior. Amazingly, I am still in love with him. His sexual orientation does not change the person that he is. And he is magnificent! I bet you are too. Trust yourself.
2006-07-19 17:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by spirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to answer with another question. Are you confused or just afraid? Own up to your own feelings and desires. It is the only thing that will help you experience yourself.
2006-07-19 21:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your friend. Don't say that you have feelings for him but ask him if he has ever been confused and see what he says and play off that.
2006-07-19 16:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everyone involved a favor and practice safe sex until you figuere it out.... way out your pros and cons ... only you can figuere this out but you should outta respect for both pick on or the other
2006-07-19 15:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by monie99701 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋