wanting another child but cant really afford it and in college help!?

Question

Hi well im in online college which is only 2 classes per year im in a 4 year course, i start july 31st so i duno how much work it will be
also financially we cant do it right now, we have no money saved. i have a 1 year old son who i love dearly id love for him to have a playmate, also because i love children and babies. and its killing me because i want another child

we are moving this month to our own home which is a good step but what do you think?
i mean i just got my stna license and i have no experience as a nurse aid so ill be looking for my first job then if i get prego i cant work lifting people and stuff

but i dont want work to keep me from having children??

what do i do? my hubby wants another child also but not as much as me and dont worry he isnt pressuring the subject, he says well make do.

Answer 1

don't have another child until you are financially ready. my hubby and i want another child too, but we can't afford it either. having another child without the financial backing is a bad start. next thing you know they are taking your house away because you can't make the payments, you and your hubby are working two jobs and don't get to see either of the kids anyway. there is no hurry. take your time.

Answer 2

The answer here is very easy. WAIT. If you love kids so much do the right thing and finish your education in order to provide the best opportunities and set the best example for your child/children that you can. Enjoy being a wife and mother now. College is difficult...do your best to stick to it and get your degree. You'll feel better about yourself and it will only help you and your family in the long run. If you love children that much there are other options for the short term: babysit, volunteer at a childrens hospital, get a job working with kids, tutor, mentor, etc.

I'm a parent and a social worker. I see the results of bad choices, selfishness and impulsivity every day. Being a parent is one of the greatest experiences one can have. It's also one of the most difficult. Enjoy your son...he needs you now tremendously. At his age his little mind is like a sponge and is developing rapidly. Work hard towards your degree...you'll be glad you did. Spend time (what little you have) with your husband and include him in as much of the parenting as possible.

Answer 3

I would give it some more time. There are a lot of government help you may be able to get, but you may not be able to. I would try to go though school first or atleast get part way though school. Wouldnt you rather be able to provide for your child then stuggle and not be able to be spend a lot of time with your child because you have to work to pay for everything. I got pregnant, and it wasnt planned, I dont really have any money right now and depend on my dad and the babys father for now. I plan to get a job asap after the baby and try to go to school and try to be a full time mom. I know it will not be easy. I would atleast try and wait for another year that would only put you kids age difference at 2-3 years.

Answer 4

I can honestly say from experience, maybe you should wait. I got pregnant at 18 and the father is no where around. Now I have another child with a different man, who also happens to be my boyfriend of four years, and we just found out we are having another one. I am still in college and have to use government aide, but we still make it work. It just depends on if you really think your ready. I know you say want another one now, but I think you should wait at least a year and see where things are. Good luck!!

Answer 5

Why rush it? Get a little established in your new house and get a job because if you get pregnant they have to give you light duty after a certain time plus you will need the extra money put away for another baby. Wait a year how bout? that's not too long and your boy would be 3 then when you had your next one that's a good space between them.

Answer 6

Sit down and talk it out with your husband. Between the time that you get pregnant and have the baby. Everything, cost, time, how it will affect your school,.....etc I was attending a university full time, working full time, and I had one child and pregnant with another. But we were "ok" financially. I graduated a couple of years ago, but I'm still paying off my 25000 loan...

If it will have a very negative affect on you financially, then it's better to wait... if not, I say go for it (I love kids too)

Answer 7

there are a lot of government programs like food stamps and wic if you do not have enough money for food and you qualify financially. Also don't let your potential employer know that you are pregnant or trying to conceive. It is against the law for them to even ask those types of questions. Once you have the job, your doctor can write a note to put you on light duty. I would imagine. Good luck!

Answer 8

if i were u i would wait a while. that way, u can find that new job, and earn more money, so things will be easier and u wont have to be so stressed while u are pregnant. also, if u are moving, that causes stress to, and dont u want to have time to get settled in at your new home? u have plenty of time to have another child, i would get your career underway first, and get finances in order, and then things will fall into place. good luck

Answer 9

Although I sympathize with you, I would wait. This is not the time. I will guarentee you that you're education will end up being put on hold and finances will get tougher. You're not old! Get your education done - look into other ways to get it done faster. THEN, get prego! And have fun! I love my kids and I understand your wanting to have more!

Answer 10

well just think if u can aford it that go for it if not wait till u can. and also think will the baby get enough love and attention. be a stay home mom like me i have 2 kids and im 21 yrs old