I am 19, and live with four other people, ages, 21, 26, 48, 63. This morning my 63 y/o room mate sent me an email telling me that money, has changed me, and that I am now a different person. That I never do anything around the house, and dont help with the dishes. The thing is, if I use a dish, I was it and put it away right after I finish with it. For the money comment, my bank account is overdrawn $43 so I have no money, to change me. I live with them, and am over 400 miles from anyone else I know, and cant afford to get a place of my own, or rent a truck to take me and my stuff home. I also dont have a car. What should I do???
2006-07-19 14:56:45 · 25 answers · asked by joshanthony1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
talk to your roomate face to face and find out what the issues and promise to do better, even if youdisagree
2006-07-19 14:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by ebaz1358 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should call a family/roommate meeting and find out what has been going on in the house.Obviously someone or everyone is having conversations about U that U need to hear about. Let them know that U have been fair about the situation regarding the dishes and if it is such a problem then U can take it, just talk to U about it. in any relationship communication is key. Good Luck!
2006-07-19 22:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to remember that this person is 63 years old. when a person gets that age they normally start to think differently. i understand about the dishes thing it's not fair what they said but he or she doesn't see it that way, they see it as you live in the house you help with the work, and to them helping with the work means doing the complete job. so i say you should keep saving and pray. try to hang in there for as long as possible. you'll be OK
2006-07-19 22:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyghurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like one of your other roomates is spreading gossip about you. Just tell this old guy that if you had money you wouldn't be where you are. Also, ask the guy when these supposed dishes were found dirty. If you've got a good alibi, then they'll know it wasn't you.
You are going to have to be sneaky here to find out who is ratting you out - and be careful what your payback is. The one thing you can't do is let it keep going and ignore it, because it can only get worse.
2006-07-19 22:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, all of you should talk things over.. Even if your the youngest, that doesn't mean that you have to do all the chores but that doesn't justify either that you must not do any. Communicate what you want and what they want from you and have a shared responsibility over the chores. I know it wont be easy to initiate a talk so sent them an email for a meeting too.. If they don't attend or respond, then the problem isn't on you...
2006-07-19 22:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the department of health and human services.
They are listed in the phone book under government offices. Make an appointment with them.
Just borrow enough money to take a bus to get there.
Bring all and any identification with you.
They will give you a free bus pass so you can get around for free any time you need to.
They will give you some financial help so you can get a job.
You just need to work to make enough money to get out of there.
GOOD LUCK! I was in your shoes once. I know what you're going through.
2006-07-19 22:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with that room mate and find out what the problem really is.. She/He is obviously making up excuses for a reason and going about it in a way that they don't want you to feel bad. Another thing is if your going to continue to have problems like that i think i would be contacting a family member and asking them for some help so you can come back home.
2006-07-19 22:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like whoever told you that wants you to do more than just your share of the household work. for now try helping out with little things...maybe if clean up all the dishes one time and get a good job so that you can afford to move out in a little while
since your 19 you should try bartending great pay and hours that you can work around any current job you might have
2006-07-19 22:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pitch in.
living with roommates is a drag. But when somebody slacks...it really drags down on the relationships. I had 20 roommates during college. Best keep the peace when you are co habitating . Until you get more cash flow, you have little to complain.
living in a hostile roommate environment is not worth it. Pick up any slack and have a heart to heart talk.
2006-07-19 22:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by Iomegan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should GET SOME MONEY and buy your senile 63 y/o roomie a clue. Why do you care what some gas bag is saying to you anyways? Close your door and go to bed. Mind your own business and tell roomie to mind their own too.
2006-07-19 22:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by rita ribs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you ought to just sit down and talk to that roomate. Sometimes we say things that we don't mean just because we are stressed. Maybe you can try to help out a little more around the house. Don't worry, it will blow over.
2006-07-19 22:00:52 · answer #11 · answered by themisslita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋