21 year old Son, lives at home. Works full-time, goes to College, pays His own bills, and rent. He met a 24 year old young lady on line, playing a game called World of Warcraft. We live in CA., she lives in Canada. He recently told Me that She is flying here in two weeks, to meet My Son, and staying for a week. I think it is a little strange, like Her age, Her picture, I just have that feeling, the one You are supposed to listen to.
Now I just received a call from Her Dad today. Seemed like a nice man, smart, but not a lot of common sense. He said He investigated Our Family on the Internet. Can anyone please tell Me how to do the same?
Anyone else ever had to go through this? How was it?
2006-07-19 14:32:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No My Son is not allowed to entertain at Our house, in that way. No She will not be staying here.
2006-07-19 14:45:40 · update #1
You will need her name and address, a birth date would be good too. You can go on line and there are companies (Intellius is one,) that will for a fee tell you pretty much whatever you want to know about her. Criminal and civil. Now most don't want to pay the fee, but don't you really want to know what your son is getting himself into? I know he is 21, but it sounds like he is expecting this woman to stay in your home, I'd want to know more than what he's told you be for she was welcome in my home for the week.
If your son gets upset, then remind him that her father has supposedly done the same thing about his WHOLE family, not just him, so if he is upset about it get over it.
If you get the information from the company and there are no black marks or blotches on it, then be welcoming to her, if there are problems with the report then be cautious with her, but at least be polite to her. If the problems are to bad, I would tell your son that she must stay at a hotel, the safety of your family is at stake, no time for hurt feelings.
2006-07-19 14:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a former world of warcraft player i can say this happens A LOT. i know it may seem a little strange, but ive seen these people actually have a nice long lasting relationships, some even went as far as marriage and now they have children. the thing about meeting others online is that you get to know the persons personality more than lust and looks. so it can be a good thing.
the big challenge is when those two people meet each other for the first time they have to see if they like the other's mannerism.
give her the benefit of the doubt at least. your son obviously likes her for her personality, and this girl likes your son enough to dish out money for a plane ticket to another country to see him, and this can be very scary for her!! at least talk to her, dont think of her negatively just because your son met her online.
2006-07-25 21:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by NAQ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee mom, that is a tough situation. You can do background checks on people on line and you can see property records but no matter what you find your son may not be ready to listen. i suggest you talk with your son and tell him you met her dad on the phone and you thought it unusual he said he had us investigated - if your son has common sense he will pick up on it. is she staying at your house? did your son ask you if he could have a guest or do you usually let him entertain that way
2006-07-19 21:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this from a girl's perspective. I am a girl who met her guy online. We fell in love online and I decided to go to see him to make sure we clicked as well in person as online.
When I did travel 7000 miles to see hi, it was like we always belonged together and he asked me to marry but first I had to meet his dad.
I guess his dad was very skeptical, like you are, and he grilled me over but good. He didn't hire an agency to check up, I wish he had. I have no skeletons and come from a balanced and prominent family. I own my own business. His son has no job. We love each other but dad said he thought I should go home and get on with my life. I went back but never gave up on us. We will be back together soon. I go back there in a few weeks. We want to be together.We do plan on a future together. We are both over twenty one and I am a bit older than he is. This Dad says he doesn't trust me. He says I seem evasive (I call it shy-I am just a very timid girl). He'd also prefer his son have a wife who is younger than the son. We want to be together but I guess he thinks he is sheltering his son from heartbreak. Won't happen. Not by me. I am in it for the long haul-marriage, children, growing old together.I am even preparing for the day I must take care of the dad. It is what is natural in our culture.
At least meet with this girl. Give her a chance to show herself. Ask her why she is with your son. Ask what their plans are. Yes, feelings are good and the warning feeling is there to keep you cautious, but sometimes it is just a desire to protect our loved ones that makes us not want to trust.
She may be a monster or at least a bit shady, I don't know. But she may also just be a girl in love with your son, like I am in love with my guy. A week there won't do too much damage and hey, she may find out they just don't click in person.
Good Luck in the situation. Just be open to the possibility she is genuine.
2006-07-19 21:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by felisuncia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds creepy to me, sorry..
I understand the dad was just being cautious with her daughter being involved with a guy who's still a total stranger, but investigating on you on the internet?, and even telling you about it?
I guess you shouldn't worry so much because you're not the one with a duaghter thats getting involved, and you're the one playing host so there's a lot of control there. 'hope they have a fine time.
2006-07-19 21:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by doc_cliff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT WASNT FAIR OF HIM TO INVITE SOMEONE TO COME & STAY IN YOUR HOUSE FOR A WEEK, WEATHER HER DAD SEEMED NICE OR NOT, WHAT"S HE THINKING OF ??? LETTING HIS DAUGHTER GO MEET SOMEONE ON THE NET ? I DONT KNOW HOW HE CHECKED YOU OUT BUT HE MUST BE A TRUSTING PERSON OR JUST AN IDIOT, HOPE IT GOES WELL FOR YOU ,
2006-07-19 21:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's only coming for a visit.I have 4 grown daughter's and I'm old fashion.Your reading way to much into it.
2006-07-19 21:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call the police station and ask how they do that! He might of been in the police force!!
2006-07-19 21:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by whateva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can do a background check on anybody on the internet, it's like $10 or more, he is retarded if he actually told you that he did one on your family, if it were me I wouldn't tell the person I was checking up on that I was checking up on them. anyways, you can do these background checks anywhere:
http://www.crimcheck.com/
or
http://www.privateeye.com/processor.asp?from=P1019&vw=background&piid=45
http://www.peoplefinders.com/?from=7795936&vw=background&gclid=CMuj-YOXn4YCFUFbGAodCGEFvg
2006-07-19 21:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kryztal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
world of warcraft
is a really good game
hahahah!!!!
2006-07-21 18:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋