2006-07-19 14:28:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds so simple it seems impossible...it just requires people letting go of the past. Trust me, I have been there. It reminds me of a statement I once heard being sarcastically said to me by my brother. "Why look in a rear view mirror when I just passed by that place?" The topic at the time didn't relate to your question...but what a great line.
2006-07-19 14:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Scott W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past and our pasts help shape who we are today. Without walking the paths we've walked, your paths may not have crossed.
That is the way I try to look at things now however, there was a time when it bothered me. What I found is that I had issues regarding trust and insecurities. Once I worked on those issues, I was able to appreciate the past for where it has brought me/us today. We can't change the past, but we can make new memories for the present and future.
Best of Luck!
2006-07-19 21:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by ididntdoitthedogdid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer and practice,practice and prayer.
Forgivness?Yes!But then you have to put it into action.
If you beleive In His dieing on the cross then you have to act like it.Its an ongoing prosses that doesnt happen over night.
We are both 42 yrs young and weve been married for 24yrs.Its been a hard road.we both grew up in very abussive homes,every kind of abusse.We both were permiscuouse as a result.Even during our married life.Untill about 5 yrs ago.The only way weve made it now is becouse of prayer and practice,grace and mercy,forgivingand being forgiven.Also forgiving myself for the damage ive done to my marriage and family and frends.
Im living proof it can be done,is being done.
God bless you and yours.Be encouraged!
2006-07-19 14:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by kelly j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is diffcult to do once you know your wife past. You have to learn to forget this issue and must know the fact that she is your wife. If this sort things always bother you, you will not have a happy marriage.
It's always easier to say than to be done. Only you can do this yourself and nobody else can help you.
2006-07-19 14:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I just had this conversation the other night and we've been together 5 years. It's not one either of us really wanted to have but it's going to eventually happen. You just have to let it go and accept that we all have pasts, but what is the most important is your present relationship. People do change, and if you only judged people by what they did in the past then the world would be a pretty pathetic place. Just remember, you have a past too and you'd hate to be judged for it now. It's not your place. However, it is your place to love and respect her for who she is now.
2006-07-19 15:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't ask her about her past and work your own ways to satify her. My partner always think that his sex life sucks me rather than my ex. But I alwasy tell him I enjoy what he has given me and why should I marry him if I find he cant fulfill my desire just like my ex.
2006-07-19 14:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A husband and wife are laying in bed and she reaches over and hits him. "What's that for?" he cries. She replies, "For being a lousy lover!" After a minute or two he reaches out and hits her. She asks, "What was that for?" He replies, "For knowing the difference."
2006-07-19 14:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You choose to forgive her for her past and live in the present. It's easy......
2006-07-19 14:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.
2006-07-19 14:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember she is married to you know!!
2006-07-19 14:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋