i have noone and nowhere to go what do i do?

Question

I AM IN A ABUSIVE MARRIAGE AND HAVE THREE KIDS AND NO PLASE TO GO MY PARENTS LEFT AND HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ME AND ALL OF MY MONEY IS IN HIS ACCOUNT AND EVERYTHING IS IN HIS NAME SO I HAVE NOONE AND NOWHERE TO GO AND HE SAYS HE WILL CHANGE AND HE LOVES ME BUT WONT LET ME LEAVE AND WONT HELP ME WITH MONEY TO LEAVE I DONT HAVE A CAR CAUSE IT IS HIS AND I DONT WANT TO GET HIM INTO TROUBLE CAUSE I LOVE HIM AND DONT WANT TO KEEP THE KIDS AWAY FROM THERE DAD SO WHAT DO I DO PLEASE HELP AND NO MEAN REMARKS I HAVE IT BAD ENOUGH THANKS

Answer 1

Leave him right away. Hunny you want your kids to grow up in a healthy enviorment. Pack you and your kids stuff and leave when he is not home. Take a bus to the nearest shelter and deal with the rest of the stuff later. My prayers are with you!

Answer 2

My Mother had me at 18 years and was abused very badly. She nearly lost me and my brother, because of her abusive partner. She loved him yes and was married to him. She had nothing on her but $15 dollars. What did she do? She got up called the police and asked if there was somewhere they can take her. They call the a women service line. And in a flash my mum was out and free. If you love your kids that much and if you want to see them grow up then move. Hes going to bring you down and your kids might even lose you. My mum did everything she could to bring me up. It was hard she said, but she had to work for what was better for her kids. We had little when we were little and no family at all, and she worked for us and she got out before things turned bad to worse. I'm telling you now if my mum can come from an abusive relationship and losing one son while in the relationship. And still be here to see me grow. Then I'm sure any women can. Leave him sweety. Just do it for you and the kids of the future. That's you kids. Your kids are important. It will be hard to start with nothing, and i know whats its like. But my mum worked that hard that we have everything we could want and my mother is so happy. You deserve that happiest most all. do something sweety or you might never be here to see your beautiful kids grow.

Answer 3

If you like the way you are living stay in this abusive situation. He calls the shots and it is not a marriage or healthy. Eventually, this is going to get worse but it will not get any better. When you are either thrown out or fed up with the way things are go to an attorney...eventually you will need one. You can not leave because you are the ultimate victim and codependent in a seriously flawed situation. I truly feel sorry for you. Good luck!

Answer 4

I am so sorry you are going through this ordeal. Please leave him NOW. For your own safety, I would wait until he is out of the house for awhile (like at work); then, pack your basic belongings, sentimental objects, valuables and take your children and go the nearest woman's abuse shelter. If you do not have a car, call them and they ask them to pick you up.

You are not doing yourself justice nor are you raising your children in a healthy environment. Give them a chance for a good life, if not for yourself.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

It sounds like he has you locked up tight. No doubt you are being abused.

Go to a woman shelter. Take the children with you. They will give you options and a safe place to stay while you get your head screwed on straight.

If there is a YWCA in your area go there. Go tonight.

I will pray for you. Good luck.

Answer 6

You need help you need to find out and get acess to the account you can ya'll married and the car is as much yours as his you cant get in trouble you need to wait till payday wait untill he asleep pack stuff for you and kids put outside the house somewhere so when he sleep you GO make keys on the slick girl you can do it worry about everthing else later

Answer 7

Honey, You need to report him. I know that you are scared but they can help you get out of the relationship. It is not safe for you or your children. I was a child in an abusive household. He doesn't love you if he beats you and calls you names get out. What is to say he won't beat you so bad the next time that you may end up in the hospital or end up dead. If you don't think he will do that you are wrong. He will never change. He doesnt think that he is in the wrong he blames you for his outbursts. Is this really what you want your children to think relationships are all about. when they get older they will either be an abuser or be the one that gets beat. Children are products of their enviroments.
My mom would never leave and I ended up hating her for putting me through all of the screaming,fighting b-s. I am 29 and I will have nothing to do with my mother she put herself and my sisters in harms way to many times. If my mother really loved me she would have left. Look in mirror really hard look deep in your eyes do you even see you anymore. Who is that sad, scared,tired, woman looking back. Do something about it reclaim your life you can be strong for your children for yourself. Get the balls honey stand up for yourself you deserve to be happy and free of abuse. Call the cops the next time he even so much flinches at you. Good Luck To you

Answer 8

The next time he is out of the house, call the women's crisis shelter and explain your situation. They will give you the best advice and help you with shelter, counseling and most anything else you need to get you out safely. Unfortunately, they deal with these situations every day.

It is highly unlikely that he will change. Please call the shelter for advice on how to get out safely before you become a statistic.

Answer 9

call your local domestic help hotline in your state hide your $ if not all some you dont want him in trouble he doesnt have to be call the hotline explain tell them you dont want to press any charges you just want out and need a place to stay with the kids safely i hope you do follow alll the advice you get tonight and move away from him love isnt suppose to hurt the kids need a better environment he needs help and until he gets it he needs to stay away from them and u

Answer 10

oh sweetie get help. call a crisis hotline they will help you find a place to go with your kids. and you need to get a protective order and call legal aid about a divorce. dont stay in this relationship you are teaching your children that it is acceptable to be abused. call for help and you will get it. if you ever need to talk to someone email me at [e-mail]. i hope everything works out for you and your children ill keep you and your family in my prayers.