I am married and I have been having an affair for about a year. I have tried to break it off but this person?

Question

want leave me alone. How can I break it off without hurting him

Answer 1

first off you for no excuse should of went looking for love outside of your marriage shame on you but now you have to hurt him in order for him to walk away or he will keep at you there is no such thing as a nice breakup you have to be up front and personal with him and let him know the real deal and be stern about it good luck

Answer 2

What is the other cheater going to do?.....tell your husband? You have all that you need to end this. Are you concerned about hurting the man you're having an affair with? Or are you worried about the husband you cheating on?

YOu have boxed yourself into a corner. You won't be able to get out of this without hurting someone. It might as well be the cheater. It will serve him a good lesson in life..."don't screw married women".

You on the other hand haven't seemed to learn a thing! You need to reevaluate your values in life (or maybe aquire some)

Check out the following website. It can answer your questions better than I can. It wil also give you a "bird's eye" view of a guy's psyche.

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Get help

Answer 3

I think that you need to do some soul searching. I think that if you want to stay married to your husband, if not get a divorce. I'm hoping that you do want to stay married. If you do break it off with this other guy and try to work things out with your husband. I think that you should get some professional help. I'm not sure if you should tell your husband about the other guy just yet. I do think that he should know about him soon.

Answer 4

i assume the answer relies upon on if you're low or no classification scum; or only a stupid human being stuck up in a stupid concern. And, only for the record- people do not "try" to not play with married people. They do, or they don't. snoozing with a married human being isn't some mistake or coincidence. you're doing what you're doing. overlook the silliness of whining about ":attempting" to interrupt it off. with regards for your very last bit about not getting money out of your cheat chum- Why problem about something minor like sponging, once you're dishonest some spouse, and harming her little ones?

Answer 5

i really think you have things backwards,you shouldn't care if you hurt this person your having a affair with,first of all you clearly don't take your marriage vows seriously,if you care more about hurting this guy than you do your husband than you really don't need to be married,and since you have been doing it for a year you must not have a conscious or care that you have been disloyal to your husband,personally i have no respect for any married person who cheats on there spouse,people today take marriage so lightly,

Answer 6

My wife just had an affair, the pain of finding out is TERRIBLE; I can't sleep, I feel ill most of the time; the torment is awful. Telling your bf that it's over is easy; the pain of your husband findout is a million times worse - END IT before he discovers your dirty secret

Answer 7

I think that the only thing that will set you free: is the Truth,you need to have a serious talk with your husband.If you can't do it alone ,go to a therapy session and spill the beans.

Answer 8

Tell him you want to be with your husband and try to make things work in your marriage. If this person don't want to accept that, then get away from him quick because he is not your friend.

Answer 9

You have blown it and continue to be concerned about the wrong thing. What about your doof-husband? You don't deserve to be married.

Get a divorce and leave him because he is better off without the likes of a liar and cheat like you!

LOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

you are married why should you care if you hurt him. youve been hurting your husband even if he doesnt know it for the past year. tell him its over and end all contact.