Why do I feel this constant guilt?

Question

With every little thing I do that may affect someone in a negative way, I tend to obsess over it and make myself feel horrible. In the past this has caused me problems with self harm and suicdal thoughts What is causing this and hod can I stop it?

Answer 1

It sounds like you have very low self-esteem with tendencies towards self-hatred. Nothing you do is right. You can't stop thinking about it. The only was to stop these thoughts in your head, is to take your own life, or temporarily, to cut or hurt yourself. To cause yourself pain, and to suffer somehow, strangely, made the pain inside, go away, at least, for a little while.
I'm sure, during your early years of development, 'something' or 'someone' hurt you, made you take care of responsibilities, that were their's, and then criticized you, the child, for not doing it correctly. I'm sure this happened over and over again, perhaps, for years. You never received any help or guidance. Perhaps, you were even beaten, and when the physical pain was stronger than the emotional pain, you began to associate using one pain over the other. You cannot stop this on your own, you need to seek out a therapist to help you, if you can't afford it, there are agencies, that can help you get the help you need!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

This type of obsessive guilt is not really about how you may have made the other person feel. In reality, that person has probably forgotten all about it, or more likely, didn't even take any offense in the first place. Obsessive guilt takes the attention away from the other person and places it on you. It's kind of like a negative way of making yourself feel like the center of attention and it makes you feel more "real." If you are really obsessing over maybe hurting someone, it may help to just ask them, "hey, did what I say kinda bother you?" When you see the look of confusion on their face because they don't even know what you are talking about, it may help you feel better.

Answer 3

I think we've all felt the way you feel and I asked a similar question here once am I my worse critic? I think sometimes we can't accept ourselves and we're extremely hard on ourselves. But we have to expect that as humans we make mistakes. Yes sometimes we hurt people and everyone's done something to hurt someone's feelings at one time or another. Everyone's had to say I'm sorry and admit that they were wrong. And the same thing's happened to us we've been hurt by people as well. Luckily if there's love or true friendship we get forgiveness because a part of love is forgiving. Either way we have to do our best to correct them but move on from our mistakes because we can't live in the past. There's always a new day and a second chance for us to change for the better. Its called living and learning.

Answer 4

The things you perceive as bad to others, may be a illusion in your subconscious mind. Guilt on a person is a very strong anchor on the mind and body much like depression. If you can explain yourself to the person in which you believe you have harmed, and get their opinion. Also practice doing nice things for people and think positive. You may need counseling in regards to the thoughts of hurting yourself. Good luck and think good thoughts!

Answer 5

You wake interior the morning feeling guilt because you're warding off your spouse and, because of the fact this does not tally which includes your theory of your self as a favorable guy, who could make the final of each little thing, it gets you down. it is complicated residing with a unfavourable man or woman. possibly, in case you settle for her "as is", and settle for which you will by no potential replace her, and it isn't any mirrored image on you which you seek for to maintain remote from her whilst she's on a downer (that's your suitable, as she is a relentless complainer), you will come to words along with her behaviour and your reaction to it and the sentiments of guilt will ease. possibly only attempt some useful reinforcement - whilst she's candy, be somewhat loving and tell her how plenty you like her smile, etc. savour the sturdy in her, and walk remote from the rest. sturdy success.

Answer 6

look before you leap. then if you still make a mistake realize that it was only a mistake. learn from your mistakes, that is all anyone can ask of a person. if you unintentionally harm someone or "negatively affect them" it is UNINTENTIONAL! remember that there are people out there purposely making people's lives difficult out of their own selfishness. by thinking about the consequences before acting you can save everyone else some trouble and clear yourself of blame.

Answer 7

You are the only one who will know what is causing these thoughts, in some cases its something that people have experienced in the past such as a traumatic situation (i:e death of loved one).
maybe you should think about seeking help of a counselor, they may be able to help you get over your problems, its good to talk about them. good luck.

Answer 8

Not sure, but I know the feeling..I always feel guilty telling people how I truely feel, and when I let someone else down especially family, I can't even sleep...because of the guilt. What is that about???

Answer 9

it sounds like you are a very sensitive person and you've been hurt so you know how others feel hurt...you have empathy..but remember that you are NOT responsible for their feelings..only your own...you said MAY affect...so you can't be sure what peoplel's responses are anyway....you really should talk to someone about this..i hope you do so you don't turn everything against yourself..you are not responsible for the world...

Answer 10

depression sweetie. Its not your fault and you've probably come from a violent home making you feel the need to fix every problem and take blame. Get on some medicines-lots of people say-I dont want it to change me...it doesnt -it helps you feel like yourself without the guilt.Dont kill yourself...barney says...your special...