i'm not looking for anyone in particular right at this present time, since i've just got divorce however, part of me want someone and the other part of me just not ready yet what should i do?
2006-07-19 13:35:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand. Even if you're totally independent, it's nice to have someone to do stuff with, to share with. It's one of the harder things about splitting up. Take it slow, and just wait til you really feel it. It's OK. :)
2006-07-19 13:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you feel totally ready i mean the part of you that wants someone in your life is most likely the part that is lonesome for the feelings that u had with your ex husband but you need to realize that no one will be him again. And you probably are not ready to start with someone new as long as you are feeling that way. I mean a divorce is a hard thing to deal with and rebound relationships are not always the best to deal with. It can cause a lot of heartache and pain for both people involved. So the best advice that i can give is wait till you know in your heart that u are ready to be with another man there is really no need to rush into something like that.
2006-07-19 20:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to heal. What you are feeling is completely normal. You see a happy couple in a movie and you want to share that type of feeling again. People tend to focus on what they are missing (good things) and forget about why things didn't work out with that person. What works for me may not help you, but I try to put a smile on my face and tell myself that I am strong enough to get through anything. I also know when my strength needs a little help. I schedule evenings alone and allow my emotions to escape. That helps me a great deal. After I let everything out I can face the world again.
2006-07-19 21:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you end a relationship that is full of habits, you feel a void at the sudden absence of those habits. Rather than getting involved in a rebound relationship, try replacing the triggers and habits you became accustomed to with your spouse with positive single-you habits. Then, when these feel comfortable and natural, maybe you can consider a new relationship wherein you could offer the other person the whole you -- not someone else's leftovers.
2006-07-19 20:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take sometime to assess your situation. You are naturally going to have self doubts and, until you take some time to heal, you will not do yourself nor the person you have a relationship with any favors. Find some family, friends, clergy, or a counselor and discuss your feelings.
You will eventually get over the relationship (time heals all wounds) and you will then be ready.
2006-07-19 20:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Rockhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy at work or school for now for the loneliness and a vibrator for the other thing. Give yourself some time and go into the relationship thing slowly. Eait until a year before you start to look...you in shock right now.
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2006-07-19 21:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!! I've been down that road and I can tell you from experience, getting involved out of loneliness leads to nothing good. Get together with friends, go to shows or something. If you are with someone else it is a lot easier to get out of a bad situation than if by yourself. Don't rush it, it will happen. I was single for 14 years (I did have "friends" in that time) and than I met someone. we've been married for 2 years now and it's the best time I can remember. Good Luck !!
2006-07-19 20:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by golfoldduffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are rightly afraid of repeating the same mistake.
Take a good hard look at yourself, recognize what these men you find attractive have in common, both negative and positive.
Keep a record of it.
You will find a pattern develop.
Then change what you are looking for so that the unbearable negative traits are not there in the next "Mr. Right."
2006-07-19 20:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy ..keep your friends by your side, and keep an open mind. If there hasnt been much time since your ddivorce, then u really dont need a nother love interest, you need to take the time to calmy collect your sefl after the disaster that is marraige.You'll get out of the blues soon enough and find that your ready.
2006-07-19 20:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow the part of you that is NOT ready. It is an indicator that you are NOT ready. Maybe you just need a friend right now, or maybe more time alone.
2006-07-19 20:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Naomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do anything until you're ready. so many people jump right into another relationship because they are lonely or want someone to help take their mind off their troubles. 99% of these relationship go bad. it isn't fair to you, or the person you get involved with, if you start dating before you are ready. take all the time you need.
2006-07-19 20:40:01 · answer #11 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋