i'm not looking for anyone in particular right at this present time, since i've just got divorce however, part of me want someone and the other part of me just not ready yet what should i do?
2006-07-19 13:33:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Realize that only time will make you feel better. Wait until you are ready to start dating, otherwise it wouldn't be fair to you or the person you will be dating. Good luck!
2006-07-19 13:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Before you go out thinking you need a significant other, try to see if you can do it alone for a while. People are brainwashed into thinking they nedd someone. First find out if you have everything you need. How is your education? Are you really doing what you love. Are you staying at home? Maybe you have to get a hobby. Look at all your interests, you might even discover an interest you never knew about. Don't let yourself or anyone else brainwash you into thinking you need someone. I believe most people get a divorce because they rushed into a marriage they were not ready for or with the wrong person. Don't rush into anything, if you are meant to be with someone, believe me, it will happen. It is called fate.
2006-07-19 20:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by pixles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the not ready part for now. You need to be OK by yourself, before you become part of a couple again. It really will give you confidence and make you a better half of a couple if you can be good on your own.
I did it, it made me know better what I was and wasn't looking for and what I would and wouldn't put up with out of someone. I knew I could be on my own and so I didn't feel dependent on someone, afraid to be on my own.
Besides meeting the right person is not something you can schedule, it happens when it happens.
2006-07-19 20:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya..I hear ya.....It is so hard to start over..we end up having the fears we didn't have the first time, fear of not being able to have a good relationship again....fear to failure...I've given that a lot of thinking and after all, you can never predict how's going to be even if you wait years and years like I have...but I guess we all look for the same, a companion, somebody to call, to think about...I wouldn't be able to say if waiting to long is the right thing but I'm sure you'll find out what's best for you little by little
2006-07-19 20:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by maru_artmarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your life back. Start over. Do things YOUR WAY. Someone will come along, either for a season or forever, and it won't matter. Going through a marriage and a divorce, I'm sure you understand how stressful and emotional it is to start over and feel like yourself again. But start at the beginning. Get yourself together and be happy and content with your life before you ever entertain allowing another man into your life. prayers to you girl...... be strong.
2006-07-19 20:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by ssavage23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the part of you that wants someone is coz you want to replace what you had with smthn better and you miss the attention and just fear of being alone.....
the good thing is that u realize you arent ready for anything besides ... you just got out of a divorce.... you should think y and the wrongs you did ... so the next time someone else comes along unexpectantly you will know more about youself and be more independant!!! dont rush into things .... no reason !!!
2006-07-19 20:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tough, maybe you should just go out on dates and have fun, do nothing serious. You've already been throught those phases and really dont want to right now until you are completely able to heal from it. I suggest you go out and have fun and let your heart, mind, body and soul heal from the divorce then you will know when to be ready the next time.
2006-07-19 20:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by deviousbeautifulangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lonely. Getting over someone is the worst, just keep yourself busy. Of course you want someone there, before your divorce its the only thing you knew. Its not wrong, its just the human in us. We need/desire human contact, for all the right and wrong reasons. You can get over this hump and you will. Pick yourself up and go out sometime, make that contact!! (keep your heart under wraps, let the fun out, not the love)
You so deserve it. Good luck 2 you.
2006-07-19 20:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just started over after a marriage of 22 years. I was with a gold digger and a verbally abusive wife. I just met the nicest lady on the net and we spent 3 weeks just interviewing each other before we met in person. She is a wonderful woman who just needs a man to love her and enjoy life with. I feel like I struck gold. 6 months now and not one argument or unkind word.
2006-07-19 20:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by laa_dee_fukin_daa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by going out with your friends, gossip, laugh, re discover yourself, you don't need a man to complete you, write down the qualities you have to offer, & qualities you want from a man or woman (don't know what sex you are) do some activities you never did before, either because you were married, or because you just never tried. redifine yourself, your expectations, then when you are ready to re-enter the dating world there will be a much better you. take time to live!
2006-07-19 20:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by silverfox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋