I`m with someone else-but its not the same. They say time heals-but its not for me. Does it ever really get better? I still miss him even after 3 years and think about him lots. How do I stop?
2006-07-19 13:30:01 · 15 answers · asked by gip55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanx for all your responses, most of which I know anyway but good to hear someone else reinforce them. You all make me feel more positive.......
2006-07-20 10:12:16 · update #1
I would like to first say that I to was in a long realtionship that went sour so I know how you are feeling...I was with my ex-wife nearly 14 years when she up and started screwing this other guy...I know its hard to let go but some times you just have to make up your mind that you are better off without him and you dont need any one who would do that to you...No one does...I have been seperated from my ex for three years also but I spend all kinds of time with my kids and that helps a lot...I dont know if you have any yourself but they do help...You cant make your heart stop loving but you can put a bad thing in tha back of your heart and go on with your life...Its hard hun but you can do it....Be strong....Good luck...geneosandman@yahoo.com
2006-07-19 13:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
There are only some those who may be friends with their ex rapidly - quite even as the breakup isn't a mutual determination. If she remains feeling this kind even as she receives again from the vacation then tell her that you want a minimum of 6 months before you could also evaluate considering her as only a pal. yet you may want to be prepared that you may want to bypass on and settle for that if she loved then you yet another man or woman can love you too. It speaks volumes of your personality that you had a seven year courting at 15. that is a uncommon component to discover someone prepared to commit at one of those smooth age. there are distinctive marriages that do not even make it that lengthy. it is going to damage for a lengthy time period yet you're about to be certain how sturdy you actually are. At 22 years old - that is the initiating - no longer the top. And in 6 months time i think you'll comprehend that.
2016-10-14 23:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by muniz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love your current partner and accept that your ex is no longer there in your life. Share what you've got with your current guy....if u think of your ex...you are not giving 100% to your current relationship. Wud you like to loose this guy? I guess not.
Your ex was perhaps a bit immature for you. Consider...why did you like him? His younger body, energetic enthusiasm? Wud he have loved you when you become 65 , old and wrinkled...while he would be in his early 50s?????
He may have moved on now. You thinking of him would not make him feel bad and give up everything and come back to you. I am sorry but I hope you realise this.
Be happy with what you have got. Some people are not as lucky as you to get a second chance to love again. Live it....enjoy it...love your new guy.
2006-07-19 18:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tashamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey he was 14 years younger to you unless he loved u like a rock all these years he was bound to go for some one with lesser age difference sooner or later.
i know 12 years is a long time but try to make the most of your present relationship .it sounds tuff now . in 4-5 years u would have forgotten all your heart ache now.
2006-07-19 18:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to release the past from your mind and that way you can move on.. it probly doesn't help by the fact that the relationship your in isn't going so well so bound to bring back memories of being with an ex .. maybe you should be thinking about sorting out the relationship your currently in because sounds like u have issues there.. good luck
2006-07-19 13:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by maidenrocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he traded up basically
he found a newer younger model
and traded you in
the part where it's gonna hurt was
you at one point were the new younger model
but as you got old, maybe you let your looks go, maybe you cut you hair short and got tattoos
who knows but i can almost say with certanty you are not the same women you were 12 years ago in the looks department and maybe in the way you treated him over the years
2006-07-19 14:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you with someone else and still pining for your old love? do you think it is fair to your current partner that you are still so emotionally attached to this old love and not capable of giving your new guy 100% because some of you is still hung up on the old guy?
2006-07-19 14:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your ex's partner has some thing you haven't got, age is one of them.
Concentrate with on you new partner, bet he is treating you good, but you're too busy pining for your ex. Be careful or you may be on your own.
2006-07-20 01:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by MissPussUK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can stop yourself thinking of him. The more you try to forget about this person, the more you will suffer. When we miss a person, its just because we always think that we miss him. But when you calm yourself, you find that without this person in your mind, you will find peace..... Because he is the caused of your suffering.
2006-07-19 14:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 4 starters plz don't think of him . u r now wit someone focus on tis guy . n b glad ur x hv found someone his age . time will heal .
2006-07-19 16:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋