My friend's 15 year old daughter is causing too much problems in the home. Can you help?

Question

My friend's 15 year old daughter is rude, crude, and violent. He doesn't know what do to with her. He is thinking of sending her to military school, but it's too costly. She has a boyfriend who she cannot see because she is being punished for kicking my friend in his private area for him discipling her. His wife has passed away, and he is raising her in the best way that he knows how. She lies, steals and sneaks around. Going to live with another relative is out of the question, because she needs to be constantly supervised, and folks work, and find it strange to hire a babysitter for a 15 year old girl. She is very pretty, and very manipulitave. She lies to her therapist and is rude and crude to her as well. Can anyone please help me help my friend? Thank You.

Answer 1

To be a single dad is not easy... A lot of time there will be something happend... I will suggest that your friend to have a nice talk with her daugther... Try to find out what is happenning Maybe she want some more atttention ?..

Answer 2

Get a different therapist?

She's got to be having a really tough time being motherless and her dad trying to handle her all by himself.

Military school may not be the right thing to do, but I think your friend had the wrong punishment for her assault on him. I think he should have had her arrested for assault and maybe spend the night in jail. Because if she doesn't straighten out, she'll be seeing a lot more of that.

There is no excuse for violence. And your friend should not tolerate it at all. Maybe she should be in a program for troubled teens - not 'boot camp' per se, but maybe a psych ward for a couple weeks, or some other place.

Other punishments include taking away EVERYTHING - clothes, makeup, computers, TV, phone, etc. and getting her some clothes from the Goodwill and a mattress on the floor.

It sounds like he was too indulgent with her when she was younger and it's kind of too late for her to decide to respect him now. How long ago did the mother die? And why hasn't the man found another woman? I know now it's probably "too late" because who in their right mind is going to try to take that on?

Answer 3

Sounds like she is having trouble dealing with the grieving process in the death of her mother.
Keep loving her, she'll know you are there for her.
You may have to back off and let her deal with it her way.
You and her will have to accept the consequences of her actions.
I know that is not what you want to hear.
When she is 26 to 30 years of age, I pray she will come around.
Death of a loved one is much like a divorce, everyone grieves differently.
Let her know that she is love, keep an eye on her, but you are going to have to let go in an emotional sense until she comes around.
It is the only way to save her, while your heal yourself.
You need to be there for her when she will needs you the most.
And that time is not now.
Believe it or not, she is getting allot of attention and she is craving more.
Turn your attention to the other members to the family while keeping an eye on yourself, will help her come around faster
It takes time to heal.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Your friend has to sit down with his daughter and make it clear that she has to abide by the rules of the household as long as she is living there. The daughter also has anger management issues that need to be addressed.
The daughter's only other options are to go to court and have herself emancipated. Or wait until she's 18 and move out on her own. Then she can screw her life up as she pleases.

Answer 6

He needs to send her to Freedom Village in NY State or Teen Challenge. She needs straightening out and he needs help with that. Other than that he must set rigid boundaries for her with strong consequences if she violates the boundaries. It sounds like she may be beyond that. She is headed for a lot more trouble than she's in right now.

Answer 7

XXXXXXXXXXX Can't you see the only reson she's doing this is for attention. She is mourning the lost of her mom and the only way she knows how to handle the pain is to create more for yourself. She really stop caring about herself which is a sad thing. She needs counceling to help her get over her lost of her mom and deal with her pain and self destruction. She needs sympathy, not boot camp. Dad needs to talk to her about mom, she needs her dad more than anything right now even though instead of showing it she'd lashing out. XXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 8

It must be hard to grow up without a mother, or to have your mom die. Try to be sympathetic. Sounds like she has some pent up anger. Maybe she needs better counseling or she should be admitted to the hospital til they find out what's wrong with her psychologically and they might offer some counseling. Perhaps he could try spending more time talking with her and taking her places and try to strengthen their bond.

Answer 9

Perhaps you could suggest to your friend that he attend therapy a few times to get some insight on how best to deal with his daughter.

Answer 10

This is a situation I can help with because I was like that to. My parents got so tired of me that they send me to jail for a while. Tell your friend to send his daughter to jail I bet when she comes out she will never wont to go back.... Trust me... Tell your friend to email me at [e-mail]..... But that will help with all his problems. Let her go to jail for a couple of months and she will never wont to go back.............