Am I too old to have a baby?

Question

I'm 37. I've been married for 3 years and we've never used birth controll. I've always been of the opinion that there are enough children in the world who need parents that we shouldn't go around creating them artificially. I am more than willing to adopt...even older kids. But I want a baby! I don't want to do fertility treatments. Any ideas?

Answer 1

It gets harder to conceive as you age. 37 is getting to the age when it will be very difficult for you to have a baby. Just because some women have babies when they are older doesn't mean that everyone can--particularly if it's the first.
You don't have to go through all the fertility mess but why not go to a doctor just to see if you and your husband are producing viable eggs and sperm. Then at least you would know that you would have to adopt.
If you are willing to take an older kid then check with the Social Services agency in your town. Usually they have kids that are adoptable and would love to have a family. You may have the chance of lifetime with one of these.

Answer 2

sum_dum, 37 is by far, not too old. You are still a young pup. My brother and his wife were also marred three years and never used birth control before they became pregnant. They now have two children 3 and 4 months. They did not need any help. She just had to figure our her cycles. There is so much they don't teach you in sex ed. I mean, you know what a period is but who ever heard of ovulation before the started trying to conceive. There are a couple of questions you want to ask yourself during this process. How old is your husband? What type of shape are you in? Have either of you ever reproduced? I say go ahead and get your husband checked. Your primary care physician can order the semen analysis. Go ahead and go to your Gyno for a preconception visit. Start taking prenatal vitamins so you are sure your are getting enough folic acid. It helps prevent birth defects such as spina bifida. You are at the age to be considered high risk. The only thing that means is you are more likely to have a baby with down syndrome. If you have considered adoption that is probably not a problem with you. There are screenings for things such as cystic fibrosis where you can see if you or your husband are carriers and how likely you would be to have a special needs baby. There are also tests that would tell you if you are carrying a child with a birth defect and you could choose to terminate. There are enough children in the world who need parents but you could be parents to them and your own. Why not try to have children, have a couple if you can then adopt a couple after you turn 40 or whenever you feel your body can no longer handle pregnancy. There are many ways you could try to conceive without treatment. Find out if and when you ovulate by using ovulation predictor kits. The box will tell you how to use them. They are very easy. Give it a go by actively trying for about six months and go back to see your doctor if you have not conceived. They will let you know your options and you can decide to go through with it or adopt. You could even start the adoption process while trying to cenceive. You never know which one you might get first. Please remember God has a plan for us all and he will never give you more than you can handle as long as you keep faith. Good Luck and God Bless, Jenni

Answer 3

sounds like you want to be able to not have kids, that you have some great ideas of taking in other children. I can totally understand this. I agree that there are a lot of children in the world that need homes and some one to love. Yet, when I go married, I wanted one of my own. I am not sure if it is just normal, or I am selfish.

Anyway, If you don't want to have fertility treatments, you can look into other options. Check to see if both you and your spouse are able to have children. See if there is anything really even stopping you psychically. Depending on the answer, you can discuss your options with a dr, or decided that it might be best for you to adopt.

If you want to adopt, there are children or course, and babies too, but you will have to wait a long time generally for a white baby. With your age..not to be rude at all...they may not want to place an infant with you. I don't know alot about the adoption process in the US, but it can be very difficult and hard on your emotions.

Good luck.

Answer 4

plenty of people in there 30's are just now deciding to have kids..if you have problems conceiving, try changing positions, or lifting your lower body up after intercourse..sometimes your uterus is tilted and it's the only way to conceive. that's what i had to do to have mine, i could have unprotected sex for years with my husband and never get pregnant till i wanted to. there is also ovulation kits you can buy to find out when your more likely to conceive, and sometimes change of diet and exercise can help with that also. If you are interested in adopting because you just can't seem to have a baby, there are tons of website and books and support groups that can help, it's not a bad way to go. my husbands been fixed, and i often toy with the idea of adoption because we can't have any more.

Answer 5

Youre not too old to have a baby. My friend is 37 and is expecting a baby in October, 11 years after her first baby. Maybe a surrogate?

Answer 6

I don't think you're too old. My mom had my youngest brother when she was 44 and everything went fine. You're just at a higher risk for down syndrome and other birth defects but they have testing that can be done to determine if the baby is healthy. I say go for it!

Answer 7

No your not too old. My aunt is 36 and she just had her first child 2 weeks ago. But there is more of a risk when you get older so i would go to the doctor and talk to him before you actually get pregnant and see what he says. Just to make sure that you are in good health to have a child. And you want to make sure you see your doctor when told once you get pregnant.

Answer 8

You are never too old until you hit menopause. I have a friend that has 6 kids, the last one she conceived when she was 41, and her daughter was 3 at the time. It can hapen!

Answer 9

My grandmother didn't marry until she was 41, she had my mom at 42 and my uncle 3 years later. Good luck, I hope you have a healthy, happy baby.

Answer 10

Nope! You're not to old. My mom was 38 when she had me. Look at all the older celebrity mothers. There are plenty You don't have to adopt