would you think i am a loser just because i am a 35 year old man who has not had sex in his life.and i guess i think i have an average sized penis of around 5 inches. please any thoughts may change my life.
2006-07-19 12:57:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you need to get out there and meet people! you arent a loser, its just you didnt take the opportunity to practice in high school, so you are stuck as a beginner so late in your life.
2006-07-19 12:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really a loser?
Do you have reasonable health? Do have enough to eat? Do you have an income? Do you have clothes to wear? Do you have a roof over your head?
Count your blessings....
As for a sex life, which seems to be your concern, that's a bit up to you isn't it?
Question: do you know what your sexual orientation is?
Question: when is your penis 5 inches? When its hard, flaccid? That's not really that little you know!
Considering your age ... there would seem to be something that's holding you back from having/seeking sex/intimate contact with another person. Were you abused as a child, made fearful by an overly protective parent? Do you suffer from OCD or Asperger's syndrome?
You can only come into sexual contact with other people by first coming into contact with them. So you may need to improve your social skills. There are schools and therapists that help you do this. But if you remember to always think of the needs of the other person your are interacting with you will already be well on the way to acquiring better social skills.
Perhaps the most difficult question I must ask is about your appearance. Good grooming combined with good social skills always helps. Wear colours that harmonize. If you have a big belly horizontal stripes will make it look even bigger, and hanging your shirt over your trousers will make it look smaller.
Are you a beanpole? Lucky you, but visits to the gym will help you put some muscle on your body and give your skin a better tone.
Most men, particularly when they are getting older, look better with shorter hair. A good haircut, nice fingernails, clothes that you have chosen will all help you in social situations.
Take pride in what you have and what you can do and you will start to look and feel better.
Finally if not ever having had sex with another person is such an enormous barrier for you, perhaps you would be well advised to visit a sex worker. You might have to phone around to find somebody who is suitable for you. I personally I think a mature person with plenty of life experience, patience and an easy-going nature would be the best.
If you do this, make sure you say what you want from the very start. Don't be embarrassed, sex industry workers have seen it all. And finally be nice!
Augusta
2006-07-19 20:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I have been with big ones and small ones and size don't matter if you know how to use what you have.
The only reason you are a loser is because you except that as your reality. God gave you gifts use them and you will be a winner. Now get out there and hit the gym build some muscles and stop being a wussy boi. GRAB LIFE BY THE BALLS AND RAM IT HOME MAN. sorry I got carried away but you get the point. This is not a dress rehersal. Get out and live man.
2006-07-19 21:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin until I was 38, so I guess I beat you. I didn't consider myself a loser, either. I was waiting for the right person. I had what I consider a "fling" with a guy for a couple of months. I thought it was just generally exciting and he couldn't believe that I hadn't had sex yet and he was going to "teach" me. Then came my husband. I have been able to relax and feel comfortable with him and really be myself. Now sex is better than I could have imagined it.
How about instead of thinking yourself a loser, you consider yourself discerning and more discriminant? You are waiting for the right person and the right time. If you think of it that way, your luck may change.
2006-07-19 20:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are a loser because you have not had sex and it defiantly has nothing to do with your penis
maybe you just need to get up and go out or join a club or start playing golf hit the bars
mostly you just need to go live life to its fullest and more then likely you will meet the someone for you
hey try one of those single cruses
where the whole ship is all singles
2006-07-19 20:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a LOSER, you just need to come over here and paint my guest room for me and detail my car and make sure it gets in the paper by this weekend because I should have sold it by now! Also, you could help with the laundry and maybe give me some suggestions on what to do with the landscaping of this yard. See? You're NOT a loser..you are just not channeling your talents properly!
2006-07-19 20:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Marlin Darlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop your slump is to portry a different image to woman if you think your a loser others will think your a loser if you talk down about your self others will think lowly of you go out there and try starting a conversation with one person a day that you dont know it will come and remember to dress for succesif you dont want peoples opinion of you to be a freak dont look like one
2006-07-19 20:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're definately not a loser. it doesn't matter if you've had sex or not. nor is the size of your penis a contribution to being a loser...
just go out and meet more people and you never know... you might find a partner.
all the best.
2006-07-20 02:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by i_am_nathan_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a loser, but you're missing a big part of life. Not necessarily the sex (thought that's something you shouldn't miss) but having a special relationship with one person you care for and who cares for you.
If you can't get past whatever has stopped you from meeting somebody special, maybe you should consider counseling?
2006-07-19 22:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is "Yank" used as a noun or a verb? You've probably had sex, just not with another person in the room. Wait 5 more years and you'll have a movie named after you. Don't worry about it. Sex is very overrated, anyway.
To Augusta: TMI
2006-07-19 20:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by NannyMcPhee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have never had sex does not mean you have a less than adequate penis size.
If you just want to lose your virginity,
and you don't care to whom.... take a trip to Las vegas,
prostitution is legal there.
But it sounds to me like you just haven't met the right person yet.
Once you meet her, she'll be worth the wait.
2006-07-19 20:09:15 · answer #11 · answered by msdagney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋