My partner of 5 years has an ex-boyfriend who anoys me because he spends too much time at our house, gets involved with our roommates, and comes over several times a week to walk our dogs.
I think it's just plain weird, bordering on parasitic.
He's a nice enough guy, but someone who I wouldn't choose as a friend even if he had never had a relationship with my boyfriend.
I have told my boyfriend I do not want him to be such a part of our life together and that includes the lives of our dogs. I have told him this many, many times.
However, without asking me he invited his ex and his ex's now ex boyfriend (the ex of the ex was my boyfreind's best freind until he stole my boyfriend's ex away -- added and circular drama).
The part that bother's me most is my boyfreind never mentioned it to me, the ex just told me that he was coming. I guess my face showed surprise, which he interpreted as an objection. Am I nuts?
I need strangers to tell me what they think of this situation...
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2006-07-19 12:55:39 · 11 answers · asked by upload2villager 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I say that you have every right not to be subjected to any of that. You...or the dogs.
If his ex is so great then why isnt he still with him
I wouldnt like it and I damn sure wouldnt put up with it.
Its not paranoid, its just a matter of common courtesy. Why not ask straight women (or men for that matter) how they would feel if faced with the same situation? You KNOW what they would say.
2006-07-20 13:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not nuts, in fact I would say that you are the only normal one there. If I were you I would run as fast as I could away from all of them, nothing good will come out of this relationship if you stay in it especially if the ex's keep joining in. Could it be that your current boyfriend is inviting his ex to make her jealous so that she will try hard to get him back and that he invites your ex so that he can rub your relationship in his face. This guy is sick and you deserve better leave and never look back.
2006-07-19 13:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very good reason to be jealous. If the Ex is coming over without your partner saying anything about it, chances are it also happens when you're not around... and maybe more happen than him just coming over when you're not around.
If your partner does't understand your concern, then he's not mature enough to form a solid relationship with you yet.
2006-07-19 13:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is an exceedingly unusual concern. Are those rapid a million on a million chat classes, or finished out dinner dates to fulfill the ex's? in case you do no longer approve of her strikes, i might come precise out and say so. you haven't any longer have been given any activity in assembly her new boyfriend, nor do you rather understand the factor of doing so, so why might you? possibly you ought to ask her why she needs you to fulfill him. i think she needs to get a reaction out of her ex's, or to grant the recent boyfriend a reason to choose to maintain her (via making herself appear as if she's had various large boyfriends in the previous, she would think of it's going to make her seem better now?). in case you get a reason out of her, i might like to pay attention it. you may positioned up it.
2016-10-08 02:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your significant other seems to be creating a Family. You dont seem to be paranoid about them fooling around, you just sound irritated that these strangers are so involved in your life. This might go under the 'baggage' category, but I'm not sure. Does your bf like to be surrounded by admirers? Is he a Gemini?
2006-07-19 13:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex in the picture is almost always a bad situation. If you tell your current boyfriend that it bothers you and he doesn't do anything about it, then you need to leave because that's flat out disrespectful and if he can't contribute any happiness to you then why keep him around!
2006-07-19 13:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by annarenee83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it nice of your bf to invite his ex whom you don't like over? Not really. It's especially rude of him to spring it on you as a suprise. You are right on this one. You get a cookie.
Now get the f*ck over it.
Weather you like it or not, your bf has a friend that you don't like. You don't get veto power on his friends, so you just need to deal. The more you fight him on this, the more he is going to think you're being a controlling weirdo freak and the closer he is going to hang onto his ex. No one is forcing YOU to hang out with this guy on your own, so just make yourself scarce when he is about and stop complaining to your bf about it. If this guy is as much of a loser as you think, your boyfriend will have the time and space away from your nagging to see it for himself.
2006-07-19 13:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if the ex is friends with your other roommates, you don't have much of a choice.
The only solutions I can see are to request your roommates to *also* tell the ex to stay away, or move out with your boyfriend either by yourselves or with new roomies.
Good luck.
2006-07-19 13:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Madame Gato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time your boyfriend decided his priorities and dealt with the situation...you have made your point clear...and it sorta looks like he has too...better get him to clarify which one of you he wants.
2006-07-19 15:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it
2006-07-19 12:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋