i want 2 marry my boyfriend who is british but packistani. i love him so much and he loves me.he says he cant because his family wont let him....is this true.am so nieve i dont know..he realy wants 2 marry me?
2006-07-19 12:36:39 · 25 answers · asked by shazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i realy love this guy.it hurts so much.am so confused.. i need help...please help
2006-07-20 12:38:34 · update #1
I was in a simular situation.. I used to be really in love with this one guy for almost 4 years, and he really cared about me too... but his family were differt and religion was differnt. I didnt care what he was I loved him but his family would dis own him completley if they even knew we liked eachother. We both new we could never be together. I understand a little cause i would ever want him to give up his family or have family problems for the rest of his life cause he married out side his family ways. Its all weird.. but within time I got over him and I met the most wonderfull man ever... my husband.. and honestly as of this day I would NEVER give up my husband even if I could be with that other man.
2006-07-19 12:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by Piper 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
At some time ago in Pakistan the parents arranged the marriages as they did in India and most Far East countries but today that practice is just about gone>Has he said why his family won't let him,has he asked you to meet his family-for that would be allowed by any nationality. By the way quite a few Pakistanis settled in Britain(England). I wouldn't just accept him telling you.
It really and honestly sounds like he is deceiving you. How old is he for that would make a difference. If he is below 18 and not legally a man then he couldn't marry anyone without parent consent but he could still be having you over for dinner and so on. Does his family even know about you?I bet they don't even know you exist. or do they for only you can really know. If he is 18 and over then he needs no ones permission. If he really wants to marry you then he'd go against his parents wishes(if that's even true)and get married. Just don't be taken for a fool that you give
Sex etc on empty promises. Sometimes love makes us not want to see but better to take blinders off and really look at him and his excuses.
2006-07-19 19:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading "The last Taboo" by Bali Rai. Or any other book by him for that matter. His novels give a real insight into what its like to be British with dark skin.
I beleive you should follow your hearts, neither of you will be happy if you truly love each other but split up. If you stay together, you might face consequences from his family but you will work through it together. I think its sad that this kind of racism (for that's what it is) exists in our time.
2006-07-20 07:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cazza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a raises person and i think you guyes should go on vacation together some were really nice and find a little wedding chapel and go for it!there is no reason why you guyes shouldn't be able to get married if you love each other that's all that matters!
2006-07-19 19:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by froggy_luvrrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just think that he wants to marry you but apparently other things are more important to him. Unless your ready to just be somewhere down his list for the rest of your life, move on. If he really wanted to marry you, he would have done so by now. He either wants to marry you or he doesn't.
If he says, "I want to marry you, but...", then he doesn't...at least he doesn't right now.
It's your call if you want to wait for the situation to improve, but it sounds like the excuse he's giving you is one that's not going away anytime soon.
2006-07-19 19:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sandman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you and know for sure that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he'll put religion aside and try his best to covince his parents....the best thing to do is for you guys to have a meeting with his parents....i know a lot of pakistani people who married a woman of another culture...so his parents seem kind of uptight with their religion....i mean you guys can even have a pakistani wedding (or add a lil bit of that)..get his parents views on this don't just listen to him...he's probably saying that they won't let him...even though he loves you he might also like things his traditional way.
2006-07-19 19:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by **sweetbabe** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a load of bollocks, dear- if he truly wanted to be with you he would move heaven and earth to do it. A lot of Asian men pull this stunt on white girls; they like the idea of screwing white girls, but they marry their own kind. Dump him- you are being used. If he "really wants to marry" you, whats stopping him- is he under 18?? Forget it- youve been conned.
2006-07-20 19:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if you love me and want to marry me dont care what his family say...
I told my mom about me marry my wife and she said no ... what I do I ingore and went got married and married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful kids. and Tell him to be a man and if we love eachother we can make it happen. If your family like british guy and no plm then he is safe. smiling
2006-07-19 19:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he really does, but he probably cant i dated a pakistani man who still wnats to marry me even though i am now married and he has an arranged marriage he wanted to run away with me and all that, he really did it was serious but his family simply wudnt allow it, pakistan families are very strict..i wish u guys luck and hope u can get married.
2006-07-19 19:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, well, let's see here. he has pursued a relationship with you far enough that your emotions are engaged, and NOW he says, but gee my mommy and daddy won't let me marry you. did they "let" him lead you on, then? I doubt it. so, if he honestly had had marriage in mind and would not marry without his parents' approval, then he would not have pursued a relationship with you without their approval, either.
he is either way immature and/or using you; in either case, I vote to dump him. sure, it will hurt and sure, your emotions are real and will take time to heal, but there is no real or honest future in a man who would do this to you in the name of "love" true love would not do this to you.
cryllie
2006-07-19 19:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋