What should I tell her?

Question

My sister is 17 and I am 28. She wants to have sex with her boyfriend. I told her that she is too young. But she will not believe me. I am a wife and mother of 10 mth old twins. She said that I am lying to her. My husband and I first had sex when we got married. We got married in the beginning of August. We had sex Thanksgiving weekend. We gave birth on August 21,2005. She said that I am being to over protective. What should I tell her. Thank You. Please no rude answers.

Not the first I had sex.

Answer 1

You got married but didn't have sex until Thanksgiving?

Let her have the twins for a week!

Just tell her you are against it but really, if she wants to have sex you can't stop her. Best to get her educated on how to protect herself from STDs and unwanted pregnancy!

Answer 2

She doesn't believe you because you say you got married in august and had sex thanksgiving weekend. I do hope didn't mean that was the first time you had sex. If so what made you wait so long and made you make your husband wait so long. If not why did you say that. I don't get it. You are being a good big sister and youshould probably help her with some type of birth control method. You can't stop her from having sex no matter how hard you try. It would be nice for her to be like you but it just doesn't always happen that way. she is a different person and you have to realize that before you cause a lot of resentment.

Answer 3

Hm. you're in a tough place, you're the big sister and you have to look out for her. Explain to her the consequences that come from having sex with her bf such as the risk of getting pregnant or getting some disease. Let her know that its something she has to be ready for and will change her.
Other than that, it is her choice. I know you feel concerned but you can only hope she makes the right decisions when it comes to her sexuality. You can't stop her from seeing her boyfriend or anything of the sort because she will just go behind your back and do it. Perhaps explain to her how beautiful it was for you to wait til marriage and share with your husband that experience. But don't force her to follow the same path you did..

I wish you both the best of luck.

Answer 4

Remind that if she has sex with this guy that should both be tested, and that she must remember that even if she is faithful it doesn't mean that her b/f will be too and that he may come home with something and pass it on to her. Remind her that she isn't immune to getting pregnant (or STD's). Take her somewhere were she'll be able to talk to people who have STD's. Young people seem to think that they are immune to everything in the world. Also, go out one day, as early as possible and let her babysit your children while you are gone. I'm only 17, and my cousin let me babysit her children once. One is 4month old and the other one is almost 2 yrs of age. BY the end of the day i was ready to cry....this might help her out... (To make matters worse the younger one was sick)

Answer 5

Ask her if her and her boyfriend can financially support a baby...or how they would deal with a sexually transmitted disease? Condoms fail, and at that age relationships do not last. Unfortunately, she is going to do what she wants to, just get her some condoms and spermicidal foam and make sure she knows how to use them...you have a great relationship with her, make sure she knows you are there to talk to anytime she needs or wants. Tell her how wonderful it was to have sex for the first time with your husband on your wedding night, and your bond as husband and wife is stronger because of it. Tell her the greatest gift she can give to her husband, lover or partner is to be honest and not have him worry about who all he is having sex with besides her.

Answer 6

This is a though one. I am not here to give you THE answer, but what I believe would be the best way to approach it. I personally believe you cannot stop this for happening. On the other hand, you should approach your sister as a friend, and ask her questions like: why would you do it? which circumstances? What do you think you would get out of it? Try to be supportive and show her you are a friend she can count on. This is not a decision we can make for someone else, but we can advise them on the approach to be taken. Good luck and God bless you both... DELP

Answer 7

She's going to live her life no matter what you say. But she is 17 and should be smart enough to make her own decisions. Just because you waited doesnt mean she has to. Now and days there isnt a certain age to wait to be de-flowered.. luckly she waited this long if she thinks shes ready..give her a condom and wish her good luck, also make sure she knows what shes getting into..♥

Answer 8

well, tell her what do she want in life cause men today all they want his sex sex and if she do u never no if he can be like i got some so im done and go hunttin 4 some more woman , so if she does she never no if he got something 2 or the condum may burt and she can have a baby things can happen, so my answer 4 her is no take it slow by 18 maybe!!!
:.tuesday:.

Answer 9

i think your doing great and anyway tell her she has her whole life to think of like college and stuff what happens if she gets pregnant she is going have to take care of that baby not you and twins you and your husband have to be doing a good job look at me i got pregnant and my life was over at 15 i think she should wait
and this is not a rude answer it's the truth

Answer 10

well, try to just convince her first and ask her why she wants to do it. the most important thing for you to do if she refuses to abstain is make sure she is prepared and safe. you should help her get protection. go to a planned parenthood clinic and get her birth control, morning after pills, and condoms. good luck and you are right, but she may not see that. make sure you arent too agressive towards her either or she will just push you away.