This is a real show stopper right here guys.. lol
Okay. I work at a camp where there are kids.. and you know, I act silly and laugh with the kids and stuff. But this one little boy has been coming there alot and around the second week he's been hanging on me all the time and just being so cute and giggly.
...but today he's starting to scare me. Now he told me he wants to kiss me and stuff. On my freakin' lips and stuff. Now I ain't tryin' to get arrested for being a pedophile if this little boy lunges at me or something. He's like caressing my face stuff. I'm not sure how to react to that...He's like...what? 7 or 8? And I'm 17. 10 years too young buddy.
He's a sweet little boy and I have fun playing around with him, but dang. What should I do? I'm just kinda in shock here... -falls-
2006-07-19 12:10:52 · 29 answers · asked by Mizzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well you could tell him that he's nice and everything but sometimes his "lil friendly gestures" get crazy, and you don't want people to think anything is going on. BELIEVE ME at 7 years old he'll understand what you're saying.
Tell him it's okay to do the things that you guys used to do, but there is a time when you have to draw the line, and right now that's what you're doing. Also, tell him that the "new" things he's starting to do is becoming very uncomfortable and everything. I'm pretty sure if you sit down with him and explain everything he'll understand, and I'm pretty sure you've already ran a million and one things through your head to tell him, so you'll be able to figure something out.
Hope this help :)
2006-07-19 12:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by lina_96771 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Tell him that you are flattered, but he is a little young for you. He is just a kid probably exploring what he can get away with and trying to simulate what he sees adults do that are in a relationship. He most likely has a crush on you and wants to show you he is "old enough"... If that doesn't stop him... tell his parents or ask an adult at the camp how to handle it.
2006-07-19 12:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're being too much a teen rather than an adult.
You DO need to take control of the situation, or you just may be classified a pedophile. But I wouldnt worry. The legal system seems to go easier on females than males.
2006-07-19 12:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a crush on you...it's OK. But DO NOT encourage the giggling, flirting, letting him hang on you. You have to let him down more gently than guys your age because he doesn't really get it. Be the adult in the situation and be kind but do not give him too much attention. Make it clear you are friends and that's it.
You may have to deal with him getting mad at you or not liking you very much anymore, oh well. If he persists, let a superior know what's happening and have them help you handle it.
2006-07-19 12:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you're gonna have to break his little heart. You will anyway, so you might as well control the damage. Just talk to him, and let him know that you guys can be friends, but b/f g/f is way out. He'll probably get upset, but in an hour he'll be back out playing with the other kids.
2006-07-19 12:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to set the boundaries. If he is that young im sure he doesnt think the same way you are. He's just trying to be cute. Don't let him kiss you but don't flip out...he's just little boy. Tell him you are friends and friends don't do that.
2006-07-19 12:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is cute but he has to wait until he is older for kissing and all that. Let him know that you are (basically) an adult and you are only interested in being his friend. Then, congrats! You're the first person to break that poor little boys heart. Hope that helped.........
2006-07-19 12:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by troutpotato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to have a serious talk with said youngster! I don't know what kind of camp it is that you work at, so it is hard to advise you how to proceed. Lots of gentle talk about friends, age, proper behavior with friends, might go a long way when prefaced with the fact that you like him, enjoy his company, are glad he's at the camp...but...! Good luck to you!
2006-07-19 12:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Susan O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you don't put on too revealing clothes on when you're around the boy.
Stuffs like dat can make a 7 or 8yr old think about the worst things.
2006-07-19 12:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know big kids and adults do not engage in that type of activity with little kids. You may want to inquirer on where he learned that this behaviour was acceptable. It sounds like he may have suffered some sort of abuse.
2006-07-19 12:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋