I have been with the same man for 2 yrs. He often beats me and throws me out of our apartment, and we have an 11 mo. old child together. I've called the police, but they tell me that they will not release the child to a homeless person, (When he has kicked me out). He's very sneaky about not leaving marks the police can see. Just 1 mo. ago I was in the hospital for 2 broken ribs. Anyway, these times I was kicked out I would usually spend the night on the porch until his drunkenness wore off, all the while being observed by our neighbors. But six mos. ago I met a really nice guy, I've told him the whole story and he seems to care for me anyway; and the most recent time my bf threw me out (about 1 wk ago) he let me styay at his condo while I looked for a job and even let me drive his truck. So you tell me; am I wrong for confiding this man and accepting his help and should I pursue this great guy further?
2006-07-19 12:02:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a no brainer so to speak. Why on Gods earth would you stay with this other guy when heaven is just around the corner for you? NO person should or has to stay in an abusive relationship nowadays, unlee of course, you enjoy the abuse. What happens when he gets tired of taking it out on you and your child is there? This happens everyday unfortunately. Get the hell out with your child and carefully see what the other guy is willing to offer. You can sue your old boyfriend for child support as long as his name is on the hospital birth certificate or not, if you just want out and be rid of this guy. Father has visitation rights but can be supervised under above conditions. Do not look back and second guess leaving this guy as nothing good will ever come out of staying there. You already know that! So leave immediately and get a restraining order against him if needbe. Good luck
2006-07-19 12:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
YES. pursue the great guy. u know why? because there's NOTHING wrong with wanting to be treated w/ respect, love, admiration, and care. this guy ur with, REGARDLESS of if he "loves" you or not, he is wrong. and does NOT know how to treat a woman. especially one who is continuing to stick by him thru all the mistakes he's making.. really, how long do u think u can keep giving up your own happines in order to take care of his?? that is just unfair. a marriage/relationship is a partnership: u need to care about his mental, physical, and emotional health, and so does he. no one can get out of it, if u want to have a *healthy* relationship. u have responsibilities, and so does he. and u have even more to take care of because u have a beautiful baby to protect and take care of, and TEACH wonderful, goodness, not hate and hurt and violence. please seek help, and if this guy is able to show you the way... Let him. don't be scared to fight for what you DESERVE..which is a life full of love and commitment and communication and healthiness..not sadness, anger, frustration, and FEAR.
2006-07-19 19:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, lets see, you have in one hand-an abusive relationship that is unsafe and unhealthy for you and your baby. then on the other hand- you have a great guy (as you call him) willing to help you get back on your feet and he seems to care about you...Oh, yeah, go for the good guy and leave the sorry drunken bastard on his um, butt...That is a no brainer. look a friend of my niece just left the same exact situation. This was the best thing she could have ever done for her baby and herself...Good Luck and be safe.
2006-07-19 19:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by scorpiochick668 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pursue the great guy further. no offense but ur man now doesn't deserve you! he beats you and breaks your bones. maybe the next time he kicks you out, get the child out and some toys and supplies and stay at the guys house. its better than staying with a drunken dad all night.
2006-07-19 19:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you married to the drunk ?
If not get your child and get the heck out of Dodge (yes I live in the West). You deserve a better life than to stick it out with an ingrate like that. "Leave you outside" . Heck, your not a dog or cat. Your a human being. Dump the drunk.
2006-07-19 19:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you are doing, wait till the bastard is drunk again, get some brass nuckles and beat that worthless F______
until he'd damaged for life!
DON'T EVER LET SOMEONE HURT YOU!
Call me, I'll se if he wants to hit this chick!
Wrong mistake exposing your child to that, this is serious, get out how ever you can!
Good luck and god bless.
2006-07-19 19:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the case to some sort of court with the money you earn from a new job.
2006-07-19 19:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you set up a spy cam in your place, so you can have evidence to show the police?
2006-07-19 19:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, i'm sorry to hear about your rough life. you need all the help you can get. take it. what you have now is a "do-over". start fresh. get free counseling, they'll tell you exactly what you need to do. again. i'm sorry to hear your rough time.
2006-07-19 19:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dump the old and in with new.
2006-07-19 19:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋