2006-07-19 11:59:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. If he has hit you it will only get worse. You don't deserve to be hit no matter what he says. Leave while you have a chance. Good luck.
2006-07-19 12:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has hit you one time..that's all you need to know categorically if he is an abusive husband. You can bet that it will happen again and again. It may get worse or the severity may stay the same. In any case he's VERY much in the wrong. My suggestion from personal experience. Leave now because there are men out there that don;t hit and have a more stable environment to offer you. Yes they are hard to find, but with persistence it will be a positive move. Also, a word of advice. Take a look at yourself and make sure that the quality of men that you are attracted to you is not going to pose a viscous pattern of the wrong man syndrome. No what I mean. Sometimes us women have a tendency to want the bad boys, but there are good bad boys. Just be careful. Take some time for yourself and don't be so quick to jump into another relationship if you divorce.
2006-07-19 19:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK the first time should be the LAST time, but don't just jump to DIVORCE, Remember when you got married, it was for better and worst. OK this is the worst , now just get back to the better. It's not easy but can be done. First of all He must never EVER hit you again! I had to make a decision like this too, WHAT TO DO? I really love my husband but I will NOT let him or anyone HIT me. I called the police, The state pressed charges, not me, I actually had no choice in it as you see on TV, Then he had to go to two years of anger management and group therapy sessions. Yes they cost a lot, all the court cost and cost of the classes....But it was worth it! It taught him a lot and we were able to stay together as a family and been together over 23 years! I had a lot of guilt for calling the police and having him arrested and having him go thru all of the whole mess, but I remembered I did nothing wrong, he hit me. There are a lot of solutions this is only one, choose which is right for you but divorce is not the only answer, Do you love him? Does he love you? Good luck!
2006-07-19 20:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many abusers only hit their victims one time--after that, they only have to re-stimulate the fear of that one attack to control your behavior. It's easy to tell you to leave, but people who work with victims of domestic violence know that it's a complicated matter--more so if children are involved. The fact that you're asking this question suggests that you're not feeling strong enough to make decisions for yourself--which is the goal of your abuser.
Hitting your spouse violates a trust that's terribly hard to get back--odds are that you'll leave him at some point. I just hope you don't suffer too much between now and then. Sooner would be better than later. Good luck.
2006-07-19 19:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because its only one time until the second time. It isn't the last time, it was just the first, if you aren't looking forward to the next time then get out now. People are either capable of that or they aren't, you know which one he is. Type the cycle of violence in to any search engine and do some research, educate yourself about domestic violence so you know exactly what you are dealing with.
Just a side note, domestic violence websites and information will tell you that anger management counselling does NOT work for these guys, they need something specially tailored to their issue and some domestic violence shelters do offer them.
2006-07-19 19:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I stayed with my husband-he went to counseling. He knew he couldn't physically hurt me any more-so then the verbal and emotional abuse started. The hitting may not continue-but there are other forms of abuse. The emotional scars I have now will take some time to heal. Get out-don't listen to "I won't do it again". I stayed to long-20 yrs. I am so happy with my life now that he is no longer in it.
2006-07-19 19:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You provide nothing but only a reason for us to say yes.
Well here's the other side, my wife threw a coffee (mug) at me 10-years ago. Man she could have really hurt me had she got me square. She meant to hit me.
I think that is an assault with a deadly weapon charge I should have filed, along with papers for a divorce, and not to forget that RESTRAINING order because we know the pattern is GOING TO GET WORSE.
OK so now we have 15-years together -- I don't get beat up but on occasion she does get pissed.
put things in CONTEXT whatever they may be.
2006-07-19 19:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband hits you, then you need an order of protection. A restraining order. He needs to go to jail. You can kick him out of the house legally. File for divorce.
Or, you can beef up, take martial arts, weight lifting, and beat his *#*!
Probably the former is better.
2006-07-19 19:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you might need to separate but not divorce. You need to seek counseling right away. Because it is the norm if he hit you once, he will probably hit you again. But seek counseling before you make any rash decisions.
2006-07-19 19:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should leave for a while to teach him a lesson. In a couple of weeks come back and tell him you will not put up with this again!
Every marriage goes through hard times, try to work it out
2006-07-19 19:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋