Should I forgive my wife for commiting adultry? CONFUSED?

Answer 1

Yes if you still want the relationship but let her know the trust is gone until you know it will not happen again, but Never forget. Once an adulter always an adulter. So you can let her go and try someone else or figure out what made her go looking. Did you do something, did you change from the way you were when first met? Ask question, narrow it down to find out why?

Good luck

Answer 2

As all the others says, YES and then NO and asks the question ?? what led her to go astray.

Well, here's the thing. First of all let's establish the fact that I do not profess to be high and almighty, but I do want to point out one source that can give you the answer your looking for. "THE BIBLE" It states (thou shalt not commit adultery), it also says (to forgive). We were all born into sin and by far we are not perfect. People make mistakes. AND for whatever reasons only you guys know. It doesn't matter what you did or what she did...it was wrong, but not unforgivable. It really depends on the 2 of you guys and how you intend on dealing with it. Yes, its gonna be hard and the trust has to be rebuilt, but yes the marriage can be salvaged. As one comment states, "it made us closer". It sounds like to me something was missing. It could also be that she needs a variety. Be it as it may, you need to either give her variety or evaluate the situation and find out if she's promiscuous. If she is changing and going that direction, the first thing is to pray about it and ask God to guide you in the right direction because Divorce is hard on a couple emotionally no matter who and what is involved. Follow your heart and do what your gut is telling you, but before you completely let it go.. give God a try, you might find a much better answer in the end. Take Care and God Bless both of you.

Answer 3

Go to couples therapy as soon as possible not just for your piece of mind why she did it but also to get out of the way all the crazy, self- destructive factors that motivated her to do it. You don't have to forgive her but you do deserve to vent to a therapist and you should yell, scream and cry at her in front of a shrink. Make her feel bad but only in therapy. And also see a therapist by yourself because you have got to be so angry and holding all that rage in is not good for you. Have a legal separation and you move out so that she can't accuse you of simply abandoning her in case you two do get divorced. For some reason, abandonment is almost as bad as adultery in divorce cases. Divorce might make you feel better or it might not. It might be something you did that annoyed her or it might have nothing to do with you on why she cheated: she might cheat on every person she's had a relationship with. I say seek professional counseling and vent about your feelings because the question you should be asking is, could you forgive yourself for forgiving her? Or would you be mad at yourself after wards?

Answer 4

Sometimes people make mistakes. They say once a cheater, always a cheater, but I don't know. Are you sure this was a one time thing? Did she fess up or get caught? Take everything into consideration. Ultimately, you are the only one who knows if you can get past this. Do you think you could have a fight and not bring it up? If not, then - unfortunately - your marriage is over. I'm sorry you have gone through this. It will take a while to heal and I wish you the best - sincerely, I do.

Answer 5

Here it is with out trust there is no love how can you open up to someone that hurts you. Trust is love and love is trust. You have to give all of you if you want to love and you cant if you can not trust. So live with her and have no love because there is no trust and wonder and ask questions and it will only make her do it again or drive her crazy and you as well. So yeah you can 4give her or not but either way the love will never be the same. So what I would do is move on and no matter who says what its on you.

Answer 6

What are the reasons she committed adultery? Was it just one time? Do you have children? How long have you been married?

Without the answers to these questions someone can't give you an honest opinion.

Only you can make the decision whether to forgive someone.

Answer 7

You should forgive her, but forgiveness doesnt mean staying in the relationship. If you don't feel you can trust heranymore and the relationship is broken, you should not keep her in a marriage where you will always blame her and always remind her of her guilt. If you or your marriage cannot heal from what she has done, end it. But you MUST forgive her no matter what, for your own sake.

Answer 8

Yes, you should forgive her if she is really sorry about it and if you love her. And also if she promises never to do it again and she is sincere about it. I know it will be hard but remember sometimes people make very bad choices in life. But in the end it's up to you whether or not you want to forgive her. Good luck.

Answer 9

Do you still love her?

If you were to leave, would you care what happens to her?


If you said yes to either one - you can save your marrige with a lot of work.

You may need couseling to work through both of your issues.

For the time being, go to the websites listed below for more information in marriage and infidelity. Both of you should do this together. There are questions and exercises on marriagebuilders.com that both of you can work on

Answer 10

Just go out and get you some $lut that can suck the chrome off of a trailer hitch and get even. It won't make it go away but you'll feel a little better. Then get rid of the cheating B I T C H